“You’re not friendly!”

“Neither are you.”

“Well, that’s a rude thing to say!”

“It is, isn’t it? Anyway, see you later.”

Histrionic and narcissistic people hate it when you don’t play along to their manipulations. It’s very hurting for their ego. Plain “No”, and ignoring them as long as you can usually is the way to go. But, with some, it also runs the risk of triggering some manipulative attempts at drama. It takes a lot of mental fortitude to confront or being antagonistic with one of these persons, I recommend against it, there’s hardly a win state. The win is that they either consider you too boring or too difficult a mark, so that they leave you alone.

We don’t have to like everyone and not everyone has to like us. But in these scenarios blunt honesty and transparent politeness is usually enough to make them see that you’re just not going to play along in their little theater. The hard part and the actual trick is, never give in, never engage. If you give in, sometimes, and act boring and assertive other times it will signal that you are capable of falling into manipulation and will make you look like an attractive challenge to find and push your buttons. This might already have happened, since she seems to have gotten under your skin already.

It helps to have a lot of maturity, self-control, emotionally know yourself very well, and have a genuine thick skin yourself. This way they can’t use your emotions against you.