Insecurity Princess 🌈💖🔥

Something more folks should talk about:
A hard thing to recognize as trauma survivors is when we're stuck in scarcity mindset.

Scarcity mindset shows up as conserving resources, or as fears and defensive reactions around other people using resources (especially shared resources, but even their own).

We can develop scarcity mindset from past scarcity experiences, but also from traumatic situations (aka, both). Scarcity mindset is also absorbed and exacerbated from people around us.

It is very hard to recover from scarcity mindset without abundant resources — and hard to perceive or recognize abundance when we have it, and still hard to recover.

#TraumaRecovery #Trauma
#Scarcity #ScarcityMindset

Jan 8, 2024 at 8:02pmWeb
Show threadInsecurity Princess 🌈💖🔥Jan 8, 2024

Scarcity mindset even showed up for me at work in frustration when colleagues were rewarded for their work

Defining the frustration was important: I was frustrated that *my* work wasn't recognized, that other people didn't perceive me nor my work in the way that they perceived others. I was in pain to see people I respected being stuck in the systemic biases that distorted and de-valued me and my work.

It was sometimes hard to feel happy for people being recognized for their work when I wasn't recognized for mine, because I saw that recognition as a scarce resource. And, yes, sometimes promotions or raises are stack-ranked with limits or budgets — but the underlying recognition and perception challenges are NOT scarce resources.

It is hard but important to walk through the reminders:
★ People generally deserve the rewards and recognition they get [*cough* but not always].
★ We also deserve that.
★ It's not fair to us when we aren't equitably recognized.
★ It's not fair to them to deprive them of recognition they deserve.
★ The bar isn't "too low" when someone is rewarded for doing less than we do: it's uncomfortable to see a double standard plainly.

Show threadInsecurity Princess 🌈💖🔥Jan 8, 2024

Why am I thinking about scarcity?

Because I find it extremely hard to use potions or arrows or scrolls in Baldur's Gate 3 unless they're abundant — even in difficult encounters.

Show threadSamhain NightJan 8, 2024
@saraislet It me, but playing LoZ.
Show threadrecursive 🏳️‍🌈Jan 8, 2024
@saraislet I've found that it's particularly amazing to see how this is revealed in how "envy" can feel like a negative feeling, when often the negativity is merely due to framing it as "somebody else got something, therefore I cannot have it" because we've internalized the scarcity mindset.
Show threadInsecurity Princess 🌈💖🔥Jan 11, 2024
@recursive realizing that helped me a LOT
Show threadKen 🌎​ 🇺🇦​  ​Jan 9, 2024
@saraislet My scarcity mindset comes from understanding how scarce so many things will become as we burn through our resources like they are limitless, beginning with peace of mind.
Show thread🆘Bill Cole 🇺🇦Jan 9, 2024
@saraislet @JessTheUnstill Anyone who has survived poverty knows this in our bones. It even echoes: my parents were children during the Great Depression & teens during WWII, and passed along the “ethos” (or trauma response…) of conserving (holding onto compulsively) anything and everything that might be useful in the future. Money, food, containers, devices, building materials, whatever.