“throwing your vote away” and “you’re letting them win”
For the two parties in power, what’s better than convincing people that this is true? Actually making this true.
This isn’t just a thing that’s “said.” It’s actually the case, and it’s been proven both statistically and experimentally. The system has been crafted specifically to cause that outcome, reinforced over decades to ensure that there are no other viable opportunities for choice.
A third party would have to win an absolutely massive percentage of the vote; Ross Perot in 1992 did better than any non-major-party candidate in the prior 80 years or any year since, he won nearly 20% of the popular vote, but took exactly zero electoral votes. In fact, no third party candidate has taken any electoral votes since 1968; and no third party has beaten the trailing major party since Theodore Roosevelt in 1912, who still only came in second.
“The system is perfectly designed to produce the results it’s producing.” If it never produces a third party victory, that’s because it can’t.
Unfortunately, to have any hope of changing it, we have to vote for the people who actually want to keep having elections.