Final point: Any time water is filling the boiler, it makes noise and you can feel the movement of the water through the line so you’d think I’d have noticed that opening the bypass didn’t actually shut off the flow of water.
But no. Opening the bypass meant that most of the water took the direct path to the boiler and didn’t go through the fill unit. (It’s kind of like connecting a weak resistor in parallel with a stronger resistor; take that every electrician who refuses to talk to me in electrical terms and insists on using plumbing analogies I don’t really understand.)
And the really noisy part was the fill unit. So as I opened the bypass, the rushing water sound basically stopped, even though water was now filling the boiler at an even greater rate.