Comfort shows without transphobic jokes?

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Comfort shows without transphobic jokes? - Blåhaj Lemmy

I’ve been feeling down lately and I started re-watching futurama for some good nostalgia, but it keeps making transphobic jokes which is kind of just making me feel worse. Anyone have any suggestions for comfort shows to watch?

I don’t remember there being transphobic jokes in The Golden Girls

There aren’t transphobic jokes as far as I remember but it does become mentioned as a plot point a few times, that for the time was pretty good but now it would be dated.

The example that comes to mind is (relatively mild but be wary) >!an episode where Sophia tells Dorothy about a guy that she insists “used to be a girl”, and Dorothy doesn’t believes her. Later in the episode the guy, in fact, comes out that “I used to be a girl” to a group of people, Dorothy surprised about that.!<

Honestly groundbreaking for its time
Just the opposite! There’s an episode with a trans man, and it’s (according to one trans person on youtube) a really good portrayal. It might be both the most progressive and least problematic show from the last century
What transphobic jokes are in Futurama? I can’t seem to remember anything specific
Futurama had that one Episode “Bend-Her” where bender decides they suck too much to compete in the mens robo-lympics so he gets gender reassignment to crush all the fembots and get a gold medal… If they made that full length episode, i’m sure there are plenty of one offs and side gags throughout that didn’t stick out to me at the time.

I hated that episode. That type of premise felt out of date when it was released.

It was surprising to me because they had a really early episode where Leela beat up her sensei really because he was sexist so it was so weird that “Bend-her” was a choice.

Bob's was the first thing that popped to mind.
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I've been rewatching Futurama and honestly there is a lot of jokes even in the first season that made me uncomfortable. Mostly sight gags of horribly depicted trans femmes played for laughs. I wouldn't call it a safe show.

The Owl House

Adventure Time

Tuca & Bertie

Over The Garden Wall

Steven Universe

She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

holy , i gotta rewatch over the garden walll. that was so good

I’ve heard good comments about Orange is the new black, although I’ve never watched it.

I just remembered The Last Of Us series came out, but I forgot to check it out.

I rewatched Sailor Moon not too long ago, and it’s pretty LGBTQ+ friendly for something out of the 90s.
Whatever you do avoid the dic dub at all costs.
The VIZ dub is pretty good, but the DIC dub is garbage.
The originals can get repetitive at times.
The reboot has better pacing with a less helpless main protagonist, but some of the story bits made more sense to me in the originals.

YMMV

Holy shit. Orange is the new black is great and I like the show, but the biggest trigger warning in the world for trans femmes. There is some incredibly disturbing, and accurate depictions of trans hate crimes. :/
Ah thanks didn’t know about that and the person recommending it to me didn’t mention it either.
To add what has already been mentioned: She-Ra and Steven Universe.

Steven, especially the first few seasons is super feel good low impact chill show.

Gravity falls is also pretty great for this.

My partner and I were going to rewatch Futurama soon, since we wanted to watch the old ones before getting into the reboot. I’m not going to enjoy that as much as I thought I would, am I?

As for recommendations, I don’t know if I would call it a comfort show since it can get really disturbing at times, but Doom Patrol is a great show, lots of fun and super queer.

There are a few episodes where being trans is almost the entire premise.

There are two different “Gender Bender” episodes where Bender is either cross dressing to act as a heel in pro wrestling, or surgically altered to become a fembot and compete in sports.

There is another episode where an alien removes the gender differences for the crew, and then changes the gender of the crew. They shoot a saucy pin-up calendar.

And then there’s the Dungeons and Dragons episodes where Hermes is a hermaphrodite centaur.

Oh, and the mind swapping episode where everybody changes brains, but that’s more Freaky Friday than gender swapping.

Core egg memory unlocked, I was obsessed with the Freaky Friday remake with Lindsay Lohan And Jamie Lee Curtis and would watch it again and again wishing I could wake up and be a girl in about 7th grade.

I’m sure most guys spend this amount of time and energy on that thought hehehehe

Oh my…

Is that why I enjoyed this movie so much??

Maybe? What were your thoughts on the movie The hot chick? It was another one of those movies from that time in my life. I liked that Rachel’s kid brother would crossdress and when the parents found out, all dad had to say was “If you’re gonna wear heels, you gotta learn to walk in them”.

Also, obvious “wake up a woman “ theme aside.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen The Hot Chick

But yeah, something about swapping bodies has always kinda fascinated me, now that I think back

I don’t think I’ve ever seen The Hot Chick

Dear God, It’s a Rob Schneider Adam Sandler flick. Sure it was during their golden years, but even their good stuff is pretty middle of the road garbage. Not that it’s a bad thing, you should just know when you’re gonna go dumpster diving to have a fun time.

I like shit fest movies like the Room and the weird B movie Lloyd Kaufman films like Poultry-geist from time to time, but rewatching some of those is hard.

Yeaaah, okay. I’m not gonna bother warching it then, that’s not the kind of movies I’m after rn
Pardon me if it’s rude to ask but do you mind explaining why those episodes are transphobic? Specifically the Bender gender swaps, I don’t remember the other examples you mentioned.

The wrestling one is just somewhat off kilter? It’s not outright transphobic, more just kinda silly. It doesn’t reference gender as an identity as much. More so gender as performance I’d say. It’s a comparatively brief portion of the episode compared with the Olympics based one. The rest of the episode is pretty great tho and is all about a misogynistic asshole getting his comeuppance from a downtrodden woman who’s always been told that fighting is for boy’s. It’s actually a great episode.

The Olympics one is self evidently transphobic. The premise is he’s not actually a woman, he’s doing it to beat fembots at the olympics. In the episode he undergoes hormone therapy and sex reassignment surgery… well the robot versions of those things. He is portrayed as having done this purely to win at sports. There has long been an established hate conspiracy narrative about trans women transitioning to beat women at sports. It was around back then, and this episode plays into the narrative quite a lot.

Futurama is my favorite animated show of all time. I love it with all my heart and for literally about a decade I skipped the gender bender Olympics episode every single time it came up. But I’ve come to appreciate some aspects of its very transphobic very misogynistic narratives. It’s not something I’d sit and watch for fun, but as time as passed some small moments have stood out to me as being kinda interesting deconstructions of what gender is and the complexities of personal identity. Like when bender struggles with the idea of “detransitioning”, even if it’s for the wrong reasons and doesn’t accurately portray any kind of transfeminine struggle in a genuine light. You can tell they sorta had half an idea what gender identity was and the ways in which trans people struggle with it. But the motives are never gender in and of itself, it’s never about who bender is but always what he gets from gender performances.

Make no mistake though. It’s among the worst. Not because it’s the most hateful vile episode of any animated show ever, but because it’s Futurama. I hold that show to a very high standard, as do a lot of people. They punched down on trans and gender diverse people there. They had no reason to do that. They played into a frankly insane amount of misogyny to make it all fit together too, in a way they hadn’t done as much with other episodes. Look at Kif, look at all his episodes and the many ways his character deconstructs gender and sex in positive ways that show tolerant and informed viewpoints. It’s not like they didn’t know how to handle gender complex characters.

But with that one episode they just really gave a big fuck you to gender diversity, to gender diverse people, to trans women, and broadly to gender and sexual minorities as a whole. The whole thing is profoundly disappointing to me to this day. It’s not enough to ruin the show for me, I love the show way too much for that. But it’s embarrassingly bad and dishearteningly bigoted from a show that I expect so much more from.

Well, I still don’t entirely understand what specifically about the episode makes it transphobic but I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

This is a weird grey area for me. I see it as a silly episode where bender does some reprehensible shit, sort of learns his lesson but than continues being a shitty person. I don’t remember anything about the episode that makes it stand out from other episodes where he similarly exploits some facet of society (foster kids, soup kitchen, pimp are a few that come to mind). However, given my perspective it’s very likely I’ve overlooked aspects of it and I am not trying to defend the episode just understand what I’m missing.

Again, I’m sorry if I’m being rude or this is not the place to discuss something like this. Feel free to ignore me or tell me to go away.

This is a weird grey area for me. I see it as a silly episode where bender does some reprehensible shit, sort of learns his lesson but than continues being a shitty person.

That episode really bothered me – decades before I realized I was trans it was my least favorite episode of the entire run. It just came off as too mean spirited, and relied too heavily on the man-in-a-dress “joke”.

Hearing Brendan Fraser swear kills me every time
My ultimate comfort show is Star Trek: the Next Generation. If it’s just me in the house and nothing good in my video queue that’s what I’ll turn on for noise.
Schitt’s Creek and Ted Lasso are great feel good shows with inclusive themes.
Here lots to choose from 3rd Rock From the Sun (comedy) Barry (Dark comedy) The Venture Bros (comedy) Drawn Together (cartoon parody of big brother) Scrubs (comedy drama) Allo Allo (70’s WWII comedy) Ted Lasso (drama comedy) Travelers (thriller/action drama) ST:TNG / DS9 / Voyager (90’s Star Trek) Battlestar Galactica (Epic Space drama) Quantum Leap (89-93) (unique drama) Mr Bean (comedy) Dragonball Abridged (Parody that followsbthe DB story) Fawlty Towers (70’s English comedy) MASH (70’s Korea war hospital drama/comedy) Avenue 5 (if current CEO’s got to run a space cruise company) Better off Ted (parody invention company) Dexter + New blood (drama) Drew Carry show (comedy) Happy Tree friends (when I’m feeling sadistic) It Crowd (comedy) The Newsroom (drama) Parks and Recreation (comedy) Silicon Valley (parody of the real silicon valley) Stargate (any of them)
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Unless you count the gender bending jokes surrounding Trill issues that have been made once or twice. Or the time Kira ruined a deal Quark was trying to make by editing his hologram program of her to have his head on a female body to disgust his buyer.

Actually curious what people think about those, along with Drew’s brother on the Drew Carry show.

I also think there was gender swap in 3rd rock played for laughs, but I might be misremembering gender differences for an alien. I also don’t recall the episodes so not sure if it was just poking fun at gender as a whole.

Similarly, I think scrubs has some references that may be unpleasant but on the whole they tend to be good or thoughtful when dealing with subjects that at the time weren’t always represented well.

Unfortunately, a lot of older shows have unpleasant jokes. We just have to realize that jokes were a way to discuss the taboo and if we didn’t have those jokes back then, we might not have the progress to today. That’s not to say we want them now but we should judge the media on the knowledge and morals of the time.

Sorry I can’t please everyone. Maybe ST: Discovery in more you speed? If you have a problem with Drew’s brother you have some issues of your own. Guys literally brought up issues regarding trans people, like getting employment. Remember how Steve got the job in the perfume(?) section?
I’m sorry you assume I have any issues with them when I literally stated I was curious what others thought about them.
Sorry, was generalizing didn’t mean you specifically
There’s also an episode where Quark undergoes gender reassignment in order to close a deal, which is played for laughs and includes lines about women being sensitive because of their hormones. It sticks out because it’s just horrible, while she show is generally good.

Drawn Together

No, oh definitely not. It's funny but it has anti-everything jokes, including anti trans. They're an equal opportunity offender against all groups.

I mean that’s the beauty, no limits! Easy Zander, EASY!
I’ll be the one to spoil IT Crowd, it has at least one poor portrayal of a trans woman. Avoid anything associated with Graham Linehan.
Agreed about IT Crowd. I watched it for the first time like 2 years ago and there was a whole episode that was awful.
The Venture Bros does have a couple of borderline transphobic jokes about Dr. Mrs. The Monarch in one episode
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Scrubs unfortunately has a few transphobic and homophobic jokes. One episode is particularly bad. I rewatched it recently and it really stood out.
Mash and Allo Allo both have no shortage of jokes about cross-dressing and plenty of casual sexism. Fawlty Towers … is also a product of it’s time, any good parts get outweighed by the bad parts.
The cross dressing in MASH was Klinger trying to get classified as a crazy (section 8?) And isn’t making fun of trans people. Allo Alloonlyl never made fun of trans people, cross dressing in that show was about making fun of trans people but making fun about how Germans are kinksters (I’m assuming herrflick in lingerie) every other ‘cross dressing’ was for disguises. Do you also take offence to this
World War 2 heroes manned anti-aircraft guns in full drag after bomber alert

The wartime government had the lighthearted photographs banned so as not to 'damage' the image of British servicemen

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Klinger wants to get classified as crazy by wearing dresses, which implies that wearing different clothes is a sign of mental illness. Herr Flick gets sexual gratification from wearing women’s clothes, thus implying that wearing different clothes is something only a sexual deviant would do. Both of these stereotypes continue to be used to harm Trans women.

Klinger wants to get classified as crazy by wearing dresses, which implies that wearing different clothes is a sign of mental illness

Until very recently you’d be kicked out of the army for being gay or trans. Klinger was simply taking advantage of a broken system, we have no idea what his personal beliefs on crossdressing were.

That’s why I take the opportunity to litter any chance I get. /s

Though seriously, if they want to trans ban me from WW3 with China, Russia, and North Korea I really don’t mind at all. Go send all the cis-hets to die in countries they can’t point to without a labeled map to spite me. Wonka ‘No, Stop, Don’t, intensifies’

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Luckily they realized after Vietnam that draftees who don’t want to be there don’t really give it their all. You bring up an interesting point though, all men in the country have to register for selective service at 18, I wonder if that still applies to trans women who haven’t updated their paperwork yet

Absolutely, there shouldn’t be anything to stop those individuals from serving on their own volition.

luckily they realized after Vietnam that… (conscripts) … who don’t want to be there don’t really give it their all.

It was 2006-2007 I was a really big 9/11 truther, any time people would talk about a draft I used to rebut “I don’t want to go there, and I want to die anyways, go ahead and give me a gun and force me to go, let’s see how many Americans I can kill with sabotage and a rampage.”

It blows my mind that we still have people who think a conscription effort would be anything but detrimental.

Speaking of, anyone else notice the semantic propaganda that is the word draft/ conscript? Our enemies are evil and they conscript their men to fight in pointless wars, but we on the other hand draft our young heroes to selflessly serve their country.

That’s the motivations of the character, he was in a dress in a comedy so that people could laugh at him.
To be clear, having seen M.A.S.H, this is correct. And you’re right about the way that the narratives it plays into continue to be used to harm trans women.
If that’s how ya wanna take it, you do you. Ya notice how Klinger was a main character that everyone else regarded as being mentally fit? I think that speaks volumes more than a single negative Once again, Germans are kinksters, are ya kink shaming Herflick now?
They were both in their respective shows so that people could laugh at them, not with them.