Why can't I argue against claims of suffering?

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Why can't I argue against claims of suffering? - lemm.ee

I don’t know that I understand the question. Whose claims of suffering are we talking about?

Ok here’s an example.

Bob : “When I put on a dress people look at me funny, which is hurtful.”

Rob : “Meh, you don’t look very hurt to me.”

BAM. Rob has argued against Bob’s suffering, which is a sin. And now everybody will justifiably hate on you. Granted.

But why, exactly? What’s the logic here? Why does suffering get excepted from analysis?

The logic is that you don’t get to decide how other people feel. It’s not hard.

You can logically say these things (l although it would still make you an asshole):

I don’t care that you suffer

I believe you are exaggerating your suffering to gain an advantage

You deserve your suffering

Etc.

But you can not tell people how or what they feel since that’s inherently subjective.

It’s really not hard.

Also, if you get into these conversation often, you really ought to look in the mirror. It’s a sure sign of MAJOR assholery.

So don’t trust your eyes, trust the words instead, because the price of misjudgment is too great to risk.

Interesting. We could generate axioms that way.

What? No?

Dude, you are a huge dick.

And now I feel bad.
You don’t look like you feel bad to me
Well I can’t argue with that.