Ricki Even More Halloween Tarr (@[email protected])

@[email protected] Wow that's a really good question, one I'm kind of afraid to ask in a public forum. So, I will give you what I use in my personal life, but I'm not any kind of authority. Some abuse is obvious, physical abuse, sexual abuse, if someone lays a hand on you to harm you or does something that takes away your agency. But there's so much other stuff, and that is harder, the first one that is simpler to me is degradation, so calling someone stupid, dumb, going out of their way to embarrass you. Obviously, I don't mean an occasional prank, but consistently mean-spirited actions, acting like even a simple mistake on your part is huge and deeply offensive. If you set boundaries for yourself and they consistently ignore or purposefully violate them, now you can only set them for yourself you can't set them for other people. The other thing I will talk about, at least for me personally, which may not fall into this category entirely, but it's a good indicator, any relationship has to be give and take, so if you're in the situation where you're doing most of the giving, doing, and apologizing, that usually indicates a problem. But first you need to ask yourself if you're asking for what you need in a clear way, or if you are not allowing them to give because of your own perfectionism. Sorry, if that is kinda jumbled.