mhoyeNov 16, 2023
One of the things I’ve learned about the consequences of bullying is that when people tell you things like “I’m pretty bad at math” or “computers aren’t for me” or “I don’t really get art or fashion” and you talk to them for a bit what you often find - not always, but often - is what that really means is “somebody treated me like shit for trying to like this when I was 9.”
Show threadIsibnuy 🐇Nov 16, 2023
@mhoye me with sports
I swear if I never got graded for badminton I'd probably really like it
Show threadDreaming of dad jazz.Nov 16, 2023

@isibell
The destructive influence of physical education has come up many times in my friend groups.. There's so many of us who learned to hate sports and exercise (and our own bodies) thanks to bad school experiences..

@mhoye

Show threadIsibnuy 🐇Nov 17, 2023
@michaelcoyote @mhoye school sports is just illogical. How exactly do they manage to pretend there would be the same standards everyone could reach if kids can have undiagnosed disabilities and similar that aren't their fault
Show threadRob 🏳️‍🌈 Rartsy Humanist
@isibell @michaelcoyote @mhoye I came to talk about sports but it’s still hard to share. Just not a safe space for gay me in the 70s-80s. I’ve never been physically fit or comfortable. I have avoided so many activities that continues to now, even now when I’m much more comfortable as myself. Sports culture felt so toxic to me. So many things did. So it’s not that I was explicitly discouraged from participating, but it felt alienating.
Nov 18, 2023 at 6:51amWeb
Show threadDreaming of dad jazz.Nov 19, 2023

@RMiddleton
Yeah, it sucks people have this sort of damage around sports and exercise.

@isibell @mhoye