Julie GoldbergWhat is that part of the brain that keeps forgetting that my mother has been gone for over a year, and keeps thinking that as long as I’m near her house, I should drop by for a cup of tea? Or that thinks maybe I should bring her to the school plays she always enjoys? That keeps thinking of gift ideas for her? When does that part of the brain catch up?
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🇨🇦@Julie I think that might be the part of the brain that’s taking care of you. Id suggest don’t argue with it, fight it or even worry about it, just appreciate it. The pragmatic part will come soon enough and the mind will shift, but in the meantime stay in that zone!
Vee@Julie You are a few months ahead of me and I'm so scared. It's weird cuz I don't even feel I have 'the right' to collapse since you know "it's normal to lose your mother, it's part of life" well effe that. I'm opting out of that part.
I hope you feel better...
I hope you feel better...
PurpleWitch@VeroniqueB99 @Julie Hi. There are no rules to grief. Whatever you feel, however you choose to remember, please allow yourself whatever time you need. If you need to howl, or climb under the duvet for a day, or be angry even, that's okay. Hopefully you will get so you remember with a sigh and a smile, and the pain is less for you. Biggest, warmest hugs. 💜🏴🥃
@VeroniqueB99 Thank you. You, too.
St. Chris@Julie You only gained a part of you that is her absence. You didn’t lose the part of you that is her presence.
I don’t know when it catches up. I’m not sure that it ever does.
@Julie Hi Julie. I lost my Mum 7 years ago. I thought I was doing okay till I got a particular scent in a shop that completely broke me without warning. Couldn't even tell you what the scent was, but my subconscious knew it instantly.
I don't think there's any rules to it. Grief is a heavy coat to wear with pockets full of memories and trinkets. It does lighten in time. Don't think you ever go past hearing your Mum's voice in your head though.
Biggest, warmest hugs. 💜🏴
@PurpleyWitch Thank you.
Kester@Julie The other day I thought “I should send this podcast to my dad, he’d love it”. Pop passed away in 2011.
Damkina@Julie not sure it does. I’m in the same boat thinking about my father.😢
Steve Lindsay@Julie for me, those thought have gradually decreased in frequency over the last 17 years. Still happens every now and then, but rare and fleeting and sweet.