@beecham I'm on a small local instance that I love. It's not for everybody but it suits me well. The server admins take a bit more of a hand in moderating and/or defederating than the big social servers do.
I love my peaceful pocket park of a local feed, and of course I can still see the entire federated feed if and when I choose.
Others may prefer totally free speech, tolerating spam and trolls.
@beecham I started my Mastodon experience with a burner account where I migrated multiple times before I made a "good" account using my old birdsite handle.
Maybe you'd also enjoy experimenting with other instances on an account that doesn't have your heart and soul in it. You get to try it out and check the vibes without committing to any one set of server rules.