mogulChildren are a burden.
kevinBLTWho tf thinks they aren’t a burden, how is this an unpopular opinion?
Trust me, there are people who think it’s a sin to use the word “burden” when speaking of kids. They are insane IMO
Sounds like they have the unpopular opinion
I actually did expect this much “positivity” to my post lol. I guess I’ve spent too much time in a Precious Moments figurine store.
SbisasCostlyTurnoverThere’s so much stigma around this sort of thing. It’s getting better, but the mindset that children are a gift and parents should be constantly grateful for that gift is still very prevalent.
The reality is that whilst children are absolutely incredible, life affirming and all that good stuff…an awful lot of being a parent is frankly, horrible.
SharkAttak"Babees are such miracles!"
Until they barf in your mouth or piss all over you while changing a diaper lol.
I blame the Hallmark channel.
In the history of the world, probably only baby boomers and maybe some of X thought this. Any time else in history, kids are there only due to the desire to fuck. Hell, the Romans drove a plant extinct with their need for birth control.
I imagine any time in history where a family needed loads of kids for labor probably was like “they aren’t a burden when they are free labor” lol
People who believes in sin are insane. Pay them no mind
Lol true
Many people think it, few people say it out lout.
I live them to death
Is that a typo or the unpopular part?
Lol thanks
You are lucky your parents didn’t think like that lol
Man, if you only knew my parents, hell if I only knew my parents.
TrickDacyTheir parents almost certainly thought that way, mine did too. Why assume it’s not the popular opinion that it absolutely is?
My children get everything they need and then some, they are loved and cherished, and we also have tons of family support. The fuck is the problem with also recognizing that parenting is an extremely difficult task which requires a huge investment in time, money and devotion?
Children ARE a burden but entitled parents are a bigger burden.
“I raised you, you owe me!!!”
Today on wildly popular opinion
www.smbc-comics.com/comic/happiness-spigot
Best summary to this topic I’ve ever seen.
I kinda wish it would expand on the fact that for some people, the constant care and all that is not for them, and doesn’t make it “a good deal”
Other than that it’s a great summary, coming from someone that doesn’t want any.
doublejay1999Give them up. Plenty people will take them off your hands, and next time use contraception.
I tried, they keep finding their way back.
that’s because the word “burden” carries a negative connotation with it, implying that it’s something you’d rather not have to be burdened with.
ideally, you would see your kids as a commitment or responsibility rather than a burden.
Definitely due to the negative image of the word for some people and I guess a sentence could be crafted to make something like saying kids are a burden to make it sound cheerful and some people would be fooled by it lol
Yup.
I’ve got two (5,1). I absolutely adore them both, but I’d be lying if I said that having kids hasn’t made my life significantly harder, my mental health significantly worse and my sense of self significantly weaker.
One thing I can say is enjoy it while it lasts LOL!
When they get older you miss those days when they were small and easy to understand. Those teenage years, hell.
I guess at the very least I get to enjoy their excited faces when I get home from work. Can’t imagine you get much of that when they pass you on the way to their bedroom later on?
You are correct, although in my case with my older kids they like to hide that they’re happy when I get home lol
If I don’t put gas in my car it won’t move. Fueling my car is a burden, but generally I think it is worth it.
I would argue that fuel and kids are not a burden as it is a net positive. Burden would imply for no gain.
StreetdogYes, don’t forget to fuel your kids.
RivalarrivalPraising cars on lemmy? It’s a bold move, Cotton.
All humans are a burden
tryptaminev 🇵🇸 🇺🇦 🇪🇺The benefit of kids is that on average they become less of a burden over time. meanwhile adults, especially of certain generations klinging to the means of production, power and denying political change necessary to keep the earth livable, are just becoming more of a fucking burden for everyone else every god damn year and they also act all smug about it.
klinging
Apparently you think life is just donkey Kong country?
DyskolosAmen, fellow misanthropist.
I went to a Nerd Night where a positive psychologist shared about PERMA, a break down of the pillars of being happy: Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment.
Her take on kids (based on her research) was that P,E,R, and A definitely take a hit, but parents consistently had the highest happines when it came to Meaning in their life. Overall advice on the question of "Do kids make you more happy than no kids?" was "It really depends on the person."
Sounds like an interesting Nerd Night.
Meho_NohomeIt depends on how self centered you are. It’s like that song “He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother” by The Hollies. It applies to children too.
The road is long With many a winding turn That leads us to who knows where? Who knows where? But I’m strong Strong enough to carry him He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother
So on we go His welfare is my concern No burden is he to bear We’ll get there For I know He would not encumber me He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother If I’m laden at all I’m laden with sadness That everyone’s heart Isn’t filled with the gladness Of love for one another
It’s a long, long road From which there is no return While we’re on the way to there Why not share? And the load Doesn’t weigh me down at all He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother
Perhaps but it is also unhealthy to think that way. Selfless people tend to get taken advantage of and that it in itself is a big burden. It made for good lyrics back in the time of love and peace though.
I think burden is the wrong word. It implies an overall negative effect on life, like saying that playing a sport is a burden because you have to dedicate time and energy to it. Yes, my daughter does take up a huge part of my life and I’ve had to give up hobbies in order to make time for her.
Responsibility and commitment, yes.
Burden, no.
Webster has “duty, responsibility” listed as one of the definitions of burden. In that sense I think they are spot on. However, other people’s interpretation of the word can obviously vary
I don’t think the OP would’ve been using that definition otherwise it would hardly be an unpopular opinion.
If they’d only said that being a parent was a duty then it wouldn’t’ve been an unpopular opinion.
than they are lying
? Really? Jesus fuck
Misspelled memes / titles get more attention and up votes
:/
Did I use it incorrectly? I see it as a comparison of lying vs. not lying.
Yes, the word “than” is entirely different than the word “then”. The most basic of English lessons would make this clear.
If you noticed what I said in my reply I explicitly state why I used it and in the correct usage. It’s obvious I understand that they are different and in what content to use either of them in.
YokozunaDon’t give fuel to this chud who likes to correct simple grammatical errors on random internet posts like its a big deal. Or just keep making errors out of spite, sounds like a lot of fun.
That’s some low IQ shit
Duuble deegits jst 4 u bby
I am so bothered
Yeah you made absolutely no sense. incorrect usage for sure.
I get what you’re saying, but in an “if… then…” statement, it’s always “then” with an e
So it isn’t a comparison but a state in time? 🤔