L4sBotDating apps lose their luster with college students
Odelay42College is perhaps the easiest time of your life to meet people irl and find a date or two or twenty. No surprise whatsoever that the apps are mote regularly used by people who aren’t in a 24/7 social mixer event with thousands of people their same age, education level, and (generally) class.
photonic_sorcererUnless you’re socially awkward and bad at picking up hints.
Yeah no doubt. Not saying there’s no reason to be on the apps in college. I’m just saying there’s less and less opportunity for meeting people in person by chance at social events the older you get, and the more your social life includes people from work, married folks, parents, etc.
College is the densest pool of single people with lots of free time you’ll ever experience bar none.
Definitely true. Unfortunately, the irl dating scene in those “dense pools of singles” follow the same pattern as the apps; Everyone keeps wanting and expecting to get the top tier guy/girl, simply ignoring (=swiping left) all others that would probably be a better match and/or have more in common.
sure its callled not giving someone a chance, being quick to judge, the apps tend to make the personalities and behaviors we have more obvious because they make it easier and more efficient to express this, but like others have said some of these apps are challenging to use by design, they want to extract money from you, not get you a date
Then you look for the other person at the party standing there back to the wall looking like a deer in headlights and make friends or at least form a D&D group.
edgemaster72Y’all are going to parties?
richieadlerParties?
You actually don’t get what socially awkward means, do you?
Ive told my daughter “Always be nice to the quiet ones and the weird ones. Be nice and be friendly, the extroverts of the world will be fine on their own.”
You’re a great parent 👍
I am, but I could still go be weird at some parties.
I guess that being laughed at and ridiculed at parties must be very enjoyable in your corner of the world, then.
u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)I mean, if I played PC games (more specifically multiplayer), I could definitely see myself attending LAN party. That’s the only party that actually sounds interesting.
The only college parties I’ve been to were those with just my friends and ive learned my lesson about dating friends…
I mean, that sucks, but it’s not like things are going to get better once you’re outside of the conditions mentioned
And also less likely to be married or in a long term relationship, have a baby momma/daddy or be a hopeless deadbeat who cant keep a job… yet.
It isnt fish in a barrel, its a barrel full of fish.
It also depends on your field of study and your level of social skills and social confidence too, though. I’m pretty sure social anxiety is increasing among college students which would also correspond with the dating apps losing their popularity among college students (and I would think the amount of college students actively dating has been trending down too).