ReaperWithASniperMatchless in the Digital Age
danieljoeblackTry being on the apps for a year without a match. Really helps boost the old self esteem.
Do young people not go places to meet new people anymore? I haven’t been single since dating apps got real popular, but I still feel most people who partner up probably aren’t meeting on the Internet.
I haven’t been single in a long time, but any time I go out there always seems to be single women looking for company, at least enough to try hitting on a dude with a ring.
Where exactly am I supposed to meet people, the grocery store? I could go to bars but I don’t drink. People always say to join groups or meet people through hobbies but all of my hobbies are complete sausage fests. Dating people you work with is usually a bad idea but that doesn’t matter anyways because almost all of the people I work with are men. People say just meet more friends but I already have more friends than I can keep up with. Actually most of those friends are even women. But none of them are around my age, single, and interested in dating me.
I’m starting to become convinced that single women who are my age don’t actually exist. I’m not sure what bank vault the government is keeping them locked up in but it certainly isn’t anywhere I go. The dating app minefield is the only place I’ve even been able to find women who are around my age. Like I legitimately don’t know where they all go. It’s baffling. They just don’t seem to exist anywhere outside of dating apps.
I mean, probably dont want to hear this but if all of your hobbies are complete sausage fests but you want to meet women organically you should try out some hobbies that women are more likely to do. Dancing classes, cooking classes, improv comedy groups, yoga, certain adult sports leagues etc. One you have a few women friends it becomes much easier to meet more and most women would love to set up their friemds if they think you’re cool.
I mean that’s fair. But I don’t enjoy any of those things. Joining a woman dominated group that I don’t actually want to be in just so I can talk to the women there just feels like it would make me a bit of a creep.
It probably didn’t come across in my first message but I’m fine continuing to do my thing and just not date anyone. I was just pointing out that the advice “just go meet people” isn’t really helpful.
You never know what you’re going to like.
Plus someone has to do it, and they want to find someone just as much as you do.
Do you dislike doing them, or do you not know and just think you wont like them? I'm asking because I've been in the latter experience more times than I can count and ended up liking what I was doing. If you can find something that doesn't sound awful and you're willing to put in a bit of effort into learning/meshing with the activity, you won't come off like a creep who's only there to meet women.