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As a white person, the knee jerk reaction to be upset when someone calls you racist is familiar to me, but try to not let those feelings become the center of the discussion or guide your response. No one wants to be/ seem #racist and the fear of being socially ostracized because of such an accusation can feel overwhelming, but you gotta regulate your emotions and realize that, whatever anxiety, pain, etc, you are feeling, BIPOC have generally felt worse. In my experience, the best thing to do is apologize for whatever you're being called out on and reflect on how you(cont)
can do better. If you're not sure what you said/ did that was racist, ask for clarification (assuming whoever called you out is willing to talk to you) and realize that, while your intentions may be good, it's really easy to be racist by accident. Especially if you're white and unfamiliar with the experiences and struggles of BIPOC folks. I myself have been lucky to have a number of friends and loved ones who are BIPOC and who have called me out on my bullshit on numerous occasions. Growing up white in WV with a father who was antisemitic and racist left deep issues (cont)
within me and I know I'm not the only white person with a similar background. While you may not have any hatred in your heart for any other person, it's important to interrogate your biases and incorrect information you've been taught both systemically and at home. Being racist isn't just the overt hatred of using slurs and waving Nazi flags around, it can be all kinds of little things you might not even consider.
One example I can share from my own experience (as embarrassing as it is to share) is when @chirpbirb and I were at a party and I, very drunk and trying to (cont)
One example I can share from my own experience (as embarrassing as it is to share) is when @chirpbirb and I were at a party and I, very drunk and trying to (cont)
@chirpbirb flirt said, "Your skin is a beautiful caramel macchiato color." Now, in hindsight, I know this was super #racist to say, as you shouldn't compare people to food, it's rude and dehumanizing. But at the time, I meant it as a compliment, thankfully, Taco knew my intentions weren't to be rude or hurtful, and they (and another friend) took the time to explain to me why what I had said was racist and accepted my apology. The thing is, not everyone is going to accept your apologies, and no one owes you forgiveness, but it's still important to apologize and learn anyway.
@chirpbirb Unlearning the harmful stereotypes and general misinformation you've been raised in is hard work, but being an #AntiRacistInTraining is definitely worth it. Not only are you bettering yourself, but you'll be better able to help those around you and do your small part to make things better for everyone.