Taking compliments is never easy. Easier to think that it’s all a big conspiracy targeted against you.

But what do you think about you and your outer shell?

Shouldn’t really matter. Develop the internal you. That matters.

Only one way to find out…

Post some pics to Lemmy so anonymous cretins can judge you superficially while they themselves look like sentient blobs of jelly.

There’s only one way to know. Internet strangers are brutal, show us your face.

I have a trans friend and she’s super pretty but I don’t think she genuinely believes me.

This is a tricky situation, since I wouldn’t want anyone to rely on external validation for their self-esteem, but here I think it’s OK to lean into the probability that your friends probably aren’t lying to you, and that you might have some internal monologue that’s hurting you.

Accepting compliments and validation by others is difficult honestly and I think a lot of women both trans and cis struggle with it. I’ve been trying to just say thank you when some compliments me but my gut reaction sometimes is still to dismiss what they said. Its a work in progress, and I do find that accepting the compliment instead of dismissing it feels a lot better internally.