I sorta worry it's the danger, which sucks, 'cause when I can afford to do some findom it does nothing for me, but when I'm running on fumes it- well, it's more dangerous

I like begging for it back- and being told no, if they don't wanna, but I also don't like losing large sums of money. But I also *wanna* lose large sums of money

I think it's also attitude? The stereotypical one I've found involved with findom honestly seems a bit of a turnoff, but the whole "better than me" attitude I usually like goes greeeaaat with findom