lolanOct 4, 2023

Atheists of lemmy, what is your coping strategy when things goes downhill?

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Atheists of lemmy, what is your coping strategy when things goes downhill? - Lemmy.world

I am at an accepting stage that not everything that happens in your life is in your control. When things goes really bad and you dont have much control on it, I would assume a person who believes in god or religious figures has their belief system as a coping mechanism. For example praying to the god and so on. I passed that stage where you believe a single entity has a complete control of each and everything happens in this entire universe. So falling back to god and thinking it is all according to the plan and he will find out some solution is not really an option for me. At the sametime I also acknowlede that there are some gray areas where science can’t provide a logical explanation so as to why this is happening to some of the life events. So to atheists of lemmy, how do you cop up with shits that happens in your life that you can’t explain logically and you really don’t have much control?

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Be realistic - whatever it is, it will pass. It’s not necessary to understand why something has happened to accept that it has happened. If you can understand it, great, but quite a lot of things in life aren’t dependent on things you do or don’t do and trying to understand those things will drive you mad.

Bad things happen but so do good things. Kipling wrote:

*If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same.*

Meaning, exceptionally good things and exceptionally bad things are comparatively rare and looking for reasons can sometimes be an exercise in futility. A bird didn’t decide to pose as an agent of evil and target you to take a shit on, all that happened was a bird dropped a load when you happened to be walking there.

In the meantime, do things you enjoy. Go to the pub with your mates, re-read a comforting book, listen to music - whatever. And once it’s passed - because it will - exert control over the things you can control that will make you happy.

Oct 4, 2023 at 11:56pmWeb