rule - Blåhaj Lemmy

“I think you’re wrong and I’m right; therefore you’re wrong and I’m right”
“also here’s me spreading lies about trans people and presenting them as facts”
“Oh you gave me facts? I’m going to ignore them because if empirical information would make me change my opinion I already would have changed it. I just want to hate trans people!!!”

had that experience a couple weeks ago. Didn’t think they would literally just ignore me, but ok.

good luck to whoever needs to deal with these people!

First time on the internet?

Never argue with stupid people. They drag you down to their level, and beat you with experience.

My favorite quote; for the people that take it as a complement.

You can’t fix stupid. You’re likely dealing with a religious nut. There is no hope for logic when the person believes in magic and invisible bullshit.

Something something chess with a pigeon
They are not interested in facts and logic, they are interested in wearing you down until you give up and/or feel worse about yourself. They are not arguing in good faith, and they are not worth your time or mental effort.
No amount of logic and reasoning can convince someone to develop a sense of empathy.
You’d think something so deeply ingrained in human nature like empathy would have a stronger effect on people’s beliefs. And yet, even though empathy is logical, as a rising tide lifts all boats, there are those who still choose hate.

They do have empathy, for their in group.

Those in the out group don’t deserve empathy on their opinion.

It’s a really fucked way of looking at the world.

I’m assuming you mean that thing where people can imagine what another person feels?

I have a hypothesis: they do imagine what others feel, but they imagine it wrong. For instance, a transphobe might try to imagine what it’s like to be trans, but the closest to that they can get is doing it for shits and giggles or for perverted reasons, so that’s what they think it must be like.

Of course, most logical evidence would disprove that, but empathy (feelings) trump facts to some people.

I can definitely see some transphobes thinking that, like some I talked to unironically think all lgbtq people are pedophiles
That’s them imagining it how THEY’D feel if they ‘chose’ to become trans, ie projection. I think empathy has to have the correct feelings.
Similarly, people who are principally empathetic and emotional first (not all are) really struggle with reason and logic when it comes to establishing boundaries. They are pathologically afraid of causing offence.
And they’ll never develop a sense of empathy in an environment that emphasizes r— and domination.
Transphobes when they are suggested that humans should be treated as humans:

Same goes for tankies.

You cant logic someone out of a position they didnt logic themselves into.

They believe in this horseshit because they want to, not because they think it makes any sense. They believe in it because they are scared, stupid and confused.

I don’t try to defend them, fuck them, but after having so many arguments with tankies on lemmy I simply came to a conclusion that if I crticise ruzzia or China and someone comes to defense to them with well known propaganda “arguments” I just call them a bitchass tankie and block them

I remember when the whole Hexbeargate thing happened, one tankie accused a user here of being ableist for using a relatively (in my opinion) inoffensive word (it wasn’t a slur, but considering that one of the server owners found it offensive too, I’m not going to say what word it was here). You know, while defending the leaders who executed people for being disabled.
I still don’t quite understand who tankies are tbh, other than that they support/follow communism
They really don’t tbh, they like having the image of communism, but they support totalirian, brutal regimes like Ruzzia, China and North Korea. While all three like acting and saying they are communist, they aren’t.
right, its just a little hard for me to distinguish
Russia hasn’t been pretending to be communist/socialist since 1991.

China isn’t communist either.

But who will tell that to tankies?

Isn’t it a 1 party “democracy”, where the party in control is the Chinese Communist Party?

Isn’t it easier for me to just Google this rather than ask strangers on Lemmy?

Whaaaaat??? A nation with a stock market (=> workers don’t own the means of production) AND with billionaires isn’t communist?

Next you’re telling me North Korea isn’t a democratic republic.

Typically the word to refer to communists that are pro-authoritarian, pro-military force, and some amount of bizarrely nationalist.

The word is also, confusingly, used to describe all communists (by people that don’t like communists) and several other subcategories. Really, you can’t ever guess how someone means it when you see them say it. Some people self-describe as tankie, either because they fully agree with the term, or because people call them that anyways.

On lemmy, 90% of the time, “tankie” just literally means “someone from lemmygrad or hexbear”, which is kinda fairly earned, because that is where all the pro-authoritarian, pro-military force, bizarrely nationalist communists hang out, but to be clear, not all of the people in those communities are like that.

Also they hate being defined this way. They will ramble for hours about how “anti-authoritarian” isn’t real or is counter productive, and more pike that. While spamming weird left unity emojis every time someone mentions anarchism…

The word is also, confusingly, used to describe all communists (by people that don’t like communists) and several other subcategories.

Which is hilariously ironic given the term was created by communists

so it isn’t necessarily bad when someone is just communist right? but obviously the problems start when they’re pro authoritarian and shit
If you want my opinion, the biggest keystone flaw in their thinking is being so ready to support/defend any nation that is or has ever described itself as communist. There is a lot of toxicity from nationalism that leads to things like pro-authoritarianism and advocating military force, and you can see it from nationalists whether they are communist or not.
I see, I think I understand a little better now
Do yourself a favor and actually visit the scary tankie websites and see for yourself. Any information you’ll get from either sides will be biased, especially in this com.
basically someone with communist political views except that they support totalitarianism and will say good things about governments such as ussr and china despite never having been there
Transphobes and conservatives in general are completely divorced from reality at this point.
The planet is literally burning and the global wealth divide is growing more rapidly by the second, but they’re convinced the real problems are vaccines (yes, still) and not enough dead trans people.
but think about the children!!!
I do. The children who live in poverty. We should take all the best dollar bills from the rich and use it to house the homeless and feed the starving. Yay or nay?

but they’re convinced the real problems are vaccines

I don’t think that’s a conservative thing, just a general lives-under-a-rock thing.

and not enough dead trans people.

And that’s the real issue for me, these people want my brother dead just because he is trans. He hasn’t hurt anyone by being trans, they hate him simply for who he is.

I don’t think libertarians are at all concerned about the global wealth divide. Most capitalists prefer to enrich the top 1%, both libertarians and conservatives.
People like that are shitty. I’m sorry you have to deal with that at all.
Reminds me of an argument I had with a transphobic person about Last of Us 2’s trans character Lev. I tried to tell him even I used to be ignorant of trans people feelings. So I have said hurtful things in the past. Until I realised what harm my words could cause. Didn’t help to make him change his mind though!
didn’t know that game had trans representation, how prominent are they in the game?
I think it’s just Lev
The more people feel attacked for their view the less they will let go of it. This is why 1on1 in multiple calm conversations you have the best odds of convincing these people. Also don’t argue with logic appeal to their emotional side. People will understand better if you bring themselves into the position. Don’t expect one conversation to change their mind it can only kickstart change.
That’s so true. You gotta throw in some questions to make them dig deeper. People can’t resist a good question. They need to know! Frame up a good one and you have sold them. Just one good question and then walk away and leave the silence to echo with that question.

Some people, regardless of how far their views are, can have those views changed.

Some people, regardless of how close their views are, cannot have those views changed.

“Changing their minds” is always an incomplete solution to prejudice. It should be attempted, but cannot “solve” the issue culturally.

Education could solve this issue, but the so-called “culture war” makes it increasingly difficult.

Long term, yes, I won’t deny it.

But to be morbid, there are people who will never change their minds, and educating the next generation that replaces them to be better after they die is slow.

What is really needed, as soon as possible, is robust legal protections and rights, any way those can be acquired.

don’t argue with logic appeal to their emotional side.

I love the irony of this 😈 just don’t ever let them know you’re trying to convince them with their feelings instead of facts!

The thing is this whole transgender or all bigotry discussions are emotional to begin with. Even the rational sounding arguments are just emotional appeals. What you do is you make emotional appeals that also sound logical.
And this is why I keep telling the “you just have to vote harder!” liberals that they have no idea who they are dealing with. You cannot possibly win them over with “better ideas”. There is no “marketplace of ideas”. You cannot give them unlimited free speech because “thise ideas have to be in the open to be challenged”. NONE of it works because they are not human beings capable of thought or reason.

they are not human beings capable of thought or reason.

Not that I don't agree entirely with everything else you've written. The left routinely has this severe problem where they're unable to acknowledge people for who they are and out of natural idealism convince themselves that if the opposition desires something harmful, it must only be because they don't understand they're doing harm.

Therefore, all one must do to combat evil is to go, "nooo, stop, you're going to make someone sad!" and after that doesn't work, they're out of ideas so they just keep trying the golden rule over and over.

But holy shit, dude. They can be vicious. They can even be dangerous enough to pose an unacceptable threat to life. They're still human.

Not if they reject humanity itself.
You come off like the kind of person who would laugh at a hanging, and by your own metric, I would be forced to label you inhuman on that basis. I'm going to refuse because otherwise, we're just playing No True Scotsman with our own species. The biggest problem with people is that they are people.