blood cat
i will take someone who fucks up regularly but actively tries to make it better and works on it over someone who only makes a mistake once but will fight tooth and claw to deny both it and any responsibility.
any. fucking. time.
Sep 24, 2023 at 4:56pmWeb
Show threadblood catSep 24, 2023
i will take someone who (to a degree) fucks up consent but acknowledges this, talks and is visibly more careful over someone who is all aware of everything, knows all there is to know but then eventually fucks up once and will go full on aggressive mode when called out on it. every. fucking. time.
if you do not understand you will once you have experienced both the healing effect of true acknowledgement of pain by the one who hurt you as well as the full violence of a culture blaming you for daring to call out a mistake.
Show threadblood catSep 24, 2023
and i will hold open the way to if not full forgiveness and re-entry into my life then at least repentance and recognition of acknowledgement of pain as well as honest effort to repair damage for whoever honestly comes before me in a sincere wish to repair. as i hope that this way will be open to me for when i find the strength to admit and repair.
Show threadblood catSep 24, 2023
גמר חתימה טוֹבה
may you have a good sealing in the book of life.
Show threadblood catSep 24, 2023
sadly i live in a world that understands or gives none of the things i described.
Show threadapophisSep 24, 2023
@witchling the vast, vast majority of errors are caught early enough to be fixed

even most of the ones that appear to be exceptions turn out to be someone silencing early criticism in the course of doubling down on the error
Show threadblood catSep 24, 2023
@apophis uhm what exactly do you mean?
Show threadapophisSep 24, 2023
@witchling seeing the rest of the thread i'm probably thinking of a different, more initially unintentional kind of wrongdoing than the one this thread is about...