Lately I keep thinking our biggest problem is that we confuse intelligence with loudness and arrogance, when really it's the opposite.

Intelligence is humility. It's listening and paying attention. It's understanding there's stuff you don't know or understand.

Fuck the Smartest Man in the Room.

@charliejane Re that quote by @pmb00cs
"it's better to be thought a fool than speak and remove all doubt"

While it's a valid perspective, it can limit discussions.

I'm often the first to ask questions of a speaker - This may sound foolish but ...Ask for information about topic to clarify my understanding ...
I've often been thanked by people who didn't know either but who didn't want to look stupid.