PrettyBlackDressWho Is The Person Bullying You At Work Right Now? How Are You Dealing With This?
TheLemming»I« am probably bullying myself at work the most
I happenen to be conditioned to feel that the mean attitude of people from my past and their opinions on me is my identity …
For some reason I can’t accept and allow myself. If I force myself to act like everyone else, I get incrediy anxious and panic attacks arise in me. Thus I just keep myself at a distance from them.
Sometimes I’ll try to socialize and be a part of the group. It feels so utterly awkward though.
Maybe I can try and accept that maybe for the others the feelings I experience is not how they think about me and, perhaps, grow a little bit further out of my internalized shame. Hmm…
GONADS125It can be really hard to recognize and reprogram automatic negative thoughts… I don’t know you and don’t want to jump to conclusions about you from a single comment, but I thought it could be helpful to share this info.
The “What? Me Worry” evidence-based module available here for free has great education on how to engage in cognitive restructuring, which is all about evaluating the evidence for and against a belief, and altering it to make it more accurate (not more positive, but it just so happens that the more accurate beliefs tend to be more positive than the automatic negative thoughts).
This is an awesome website full of free evidence-based resources that I used in clinical interventions with my former Clients. Love to share it online. I’ve found a lot of the material very helpful myself.
Automatic Negative Thoughts: What They Are, Causes, and How to Overcome Them - The Human Condition
Automatic negative thoughts are involuntary and hard to inhibit self-statements influenced by negative underlying core beliefs and include negative thoughts about oneself, perceived threats from others, and the future.