Church of JeffAug 30, 2023
1 of 2 - A good friend of mine unexpectedly lost his wife. A couple months later we were golfing together, chatting about nothing. He asked what my dinner plans were and I told him wifey wanted my homemade chili and cornbread, but I didn't feel like stopping at the store. We golfed a few more minutes when he quietly said, “Make the chili."
Show threadlolonurseAug 31, 2023
@jeffowski
I wonder if men are different than women. When my husband died suddenly, I couldn't stop crying for 4 months. I can't even imagine going golfing or anything within just a few months. But yeah - it's good you made the chili.
Show threadjojoeffeAug 31, 2023
@lolonurse when my mother died, my dad found a new partner (after about 40 years of marriage) in about 4 months and we still aren't allowed to mention my mother in her presence because she feels "unwelcome" after about 10 years.
Show threadlolonurseAug 31, 2023
@jojoeffe
Our "step-mother" (in quotes bc we were all married adults when she came along, & we never liked her) was an educated woman, but she never could hold a candle to our mom. Dad adored our mom, & did not love his second wife as much or in the same way - and we never didn't talk about mom. Number 2 was a jealous person, & a lousy grandparent.
Show threadjojoeffe
@lolonurse basically the same! I was 37. She will never let him have any time with me and my brother without having to be there as well. They never told me they were getting married so I call her my alleged stepmother.
Aug 31, 2023 at 11:06pmWeb
Show threadjojoeffeAug 31, 2023
@lolonurse I tried really hard with her because I wanted to be supportive of my father's relationship (like I said, everyone handled the loss of a partner differently) but she just isn't a very nice person.