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cygnus_velum Aug 20, 2023

If you knew you were going to get Alzheimer’s at 65 would you have kids?

If you knew you were going to get Alzheimer’s at 65 would you have kids? - Lemmy.world

This has been on my mind lately. My dad is going through it, his sister has got it pretty bad and I apparently have the predisposed gene to get in my future. I’m leaning no because I wouldn’t want to make my child go through slowly watching their dad’s mind leave them and also potentially pass it on to them when they get older. It’s thrown me for a loop since I always imagined myself having kids and I’m around that age now. What do you think?

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robotrash Aug 20, 2023

If you want kids you should have them. You can let fear of the ifs keep you from doing that. I say this being generally opposed to children as well lol

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cygnus_velum Aug 20, 2023

Yeah, only recently have I been opposed to having children outside of the Alzheimer’s question. We could afford to have them, but it would truly be paycheck to paycheck which I wouldn’t be comfortable with.

Also, my partner is very against having children. Which I understand, but it’s a different place to be in life when I always imagined having them. Now I’m trying to decide if I truly want to have them and the boat is sailing since I’m 36.

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axolittl

If you decide to have kids and choose to have a co-parent, rather being a single parent, choose a co-parent who also wants kids. Having kids with someone who doesn’t want them is cursing the kids to be raised by someone who doesn’t want them, which can have significant emotional consequences.