Ex NummisAug 19, 2023

Been waiting for help for months now

https://lemmy.world/post/3434691

Been waiting for help for months now - Lemmy.world

“If you feel suicidal, there’s always help! Just talk to (x) or contact (y) organization!” Except, this couldn’t be further from the truth. When you tell people around you you aren’t well and need help, they scoff at you and talk about their own problems which are always much worse. If you finally do bite the bullet and go to your GP and ask for help, they tell you that there’s a waiting list of 5 months. Except if you’re actively suicidal - which I fight against every day - then you can get help immediately. But I don’t want to take the place of someone who needs it more than me, so I don’t pretend to be worse off than I am. I don’t even know where I’m going with this. I just needed to rant. No replies needed, I’m sure this post is just another drop in an entire ocean, and there’s nothing special about me that entitles me to more or better help than the next fool in line. God damn, how I hate this entire society. We’re currently at the most risk of global nuclear war since the cold war, and I honestly can’t bring myself to give a fuck. A part of me hopes Putin pushes that button, and with that action, take away any and all agency I have left - for I only misuse it anyway.

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Mod here. Please flair as NSFW. See pinned post from VubDapple.

We’ve got a few pinned posts with a wide variety of resources; please check these to see if any look promising. More importantly: use them. Call 988, or a warm-line. You’ve already taken the first step by posting here. Keep going.

I fully agree the two avenues you’ve reached out to so far can be useless. Formal, one-on-one treatment lags massively beyond need–every news outlet runs stories, citing politicians who allocated big bucks to resources… which take years to get anything accomplished, and likely get bogged in red tape, slush-fund budgeting so you and I get nothing.

People around you often play comparative games: “ooh, let me tell you about MY issues; blah, blah blah; you see? they’re worse than yours, so just suck it up.”

However, I disagree that there’s nothing special about you, or that you’re taking resources someone else might need more. You matter, more than you know. You deserve, as much as anyone, love and help.

There are some good responses already… far less than 5 months.

Two additional strategies. (1) Meditate. If you’re not sure how, let me know; I can suggest some good free starting points. It may seem stupid, irrelevant at first. But I’ve found it’s a remarkable way for me to know what I’m feeling. If I can sit with the feeling long enough, sometimes I can figure out why I’m feeling that way.

(2) Reach out, spread good. It doesn’t have to be dramatic, like “helping someone in more need than you are.” Sometimes, it’s letting someone trying to make a left turn into traffic the space to make that turn. Giving a compliment to a random stranger.

I struggle with depression too. I’ve earned it–my partner with Alzheimer’s is in a nursing home I call “Roach Motel” it’s so badly run. (No, this is not “my problems are worse than yours.”) I visit daily. I brush her hair, hold her hand, holler for aides when they ignore the call bell–I make a difference in her life. I like some of the aides, and I think others are pure a**holes. But I bring in inexpensive snacks, give compliments when I can, and treat people with a crappy job with as much respect and kindness as I can muster. Some days, I REALLY don’t want to visit… but I make myself. And always, when I leave, the depression has lifted a little.

Aug 19, 2023 at 2:58pmWeb