Hyrulean1st day in the office of a new job today. It was fun! But definitely weird. First time I've had that New Guy feeling in the workplace in 18 years! There's loads I don't know and what I've picked up so far isn't clicking in my head yet. Honestly? It's a bit scary, and that's EXACTLY what I wanted.
DiegoVee89 (He/Him)@Hyrulean you want things to be scary? Why? 😱
@DiegoVee89 cos if it's not uncomfortable and a little not scary then I'm not putting myself in a position where I can grow and learn. It's not scary as in oh-my-god-I'm-going-to-die. More of a situation where it doesn't all automatically make sense and I don't know enough to be confident of anything, so it's uncomfortable and makes me slightly nervous, but that's manageable and a good sign 😊
@Hyrulean i wish i had your moxy. For me, as someone with anxiety, my brain goes straight to "OH MY GOD YOU'RE NOT DOING THIS RIGHT YOU'RE GONNA DIE AND EVERYONE WILL SEE WHAT A FAILURE YOU ARE!!!😂
@DiegoVee89 yup, I have that little voice too, we call that imposter syndrome. It tells us we're not good at our work, we're doing it wrong, we're going to fuck it up and be exposed as a charlatan. A tiny amount of that is healthy, but when it gets too much its debilitating. Once you're older you realise more and more that every single person is winging it for almost everything they do, you learn to give yourself more of a break and you accept it as natural. Then you decide to just carry on 😊
@Hyrulean oh yeah imposter syndrom and self-doubt are my main problems I'm dealing with😅. I need to lower the dial on those lol
@DiegoVee89 well you can only lower the volume of those by accepting them (not fighting them) but also ignoring them, and cracking on regardless. That way you prove to yourself that you actually can, and the volume gets lower and lower. Like starting off with a terrifying towering cerberus and eventually downgrading it to a toothless chihuahua.
So good luck with that! 😁
So good luck with that! 😁
@Hyrulean thanks! Funny you mention a toothless chihuahua because i got one of those! 😂
@DiegoVee89 no way! Haha aaaww I bet it's adorable. But would you let it govern your thought processes??
@Hyrulean she is adorable! And no, i won't let it govern my thoughts. I will fight it! Especially since i want to be an author one day.