As a woman, the secret is the unload your baggage to friends one at a time as to not overwhelm them.

Having a crappy day? Talk about it.

Relationship issues? Talk about it.

Feeling stuck in your career? Talk about it

But don’t do it all at once, otherwise people will feel like you’re misusing them as free therapy, and takes away from the natural give and take between friends.

Meanwhile, the reality as a man:

“How’s your day?” - it’s fine

“How’s the wife?” - she’s fine

“How’s work?” - it’s fine