This is also why cis people tend to disbelieve in the existence of trans children: because they see trans identities as inherently sexual, they believe they must then be "imposed" on children.

The idea that trans kids have a gender identity as natural and real as a cis person's simply does not compute to people who have been conditioned to view everything about gender in sexualized terms.

It's frequently futile even having these conversations with cis people who haven't examined their assumptions because their status as "normal" is extremely important to them.

It's why even so-called allies become squeamish about gender affirming care for trans kids and will often couch their support for trans people in "live and let terms" for "consenting adults" only.

Because they think being trans is all about fucking.

This is how you end up with cis TERF lesbians who insist everyone else but especially trans people should conform to their assigned gender or be punished while they, obviously, are allowed whatever form of presentation and gender expression they like.

"Forcing me to be feminine is patriarchal oppression but forcing other people to conform to patriarchal expectations is totally a-okay because I'm 'normal.'"

When I was in college, my encounters with the local queer community were defined by cis queers trying to suppress my gender in favor of their preferred modes of sexualized expression. Cis gay men in particular found it exasperating that I "acted" like a woman instead of being a proper twink for their amusement.

Ironically, cis-het people were far more supportive and had an easier time wrapping their heads around "she's just a girl who was born differently."