HardlightCerealGender performance
GCostanzaStepOnMeReally makes you think
…that transgender people will think up anything to try and seem less ordinary than everyone else but really we’re all the same. Quite boring, no matter your gender
HotDogFingiesUh, maybe trans people feel ostracized and scared because half the world is actively trying to eradicate them? And you read that as attention seeking? That is some bizarre-ass victim-blaming.
Most trans people would very much enjoy not being recognized as trans.
DrNyaaaA human is a human regardless of being cis or trans, it’s as simple as that and people seem to forget that
Thought no trans person ever.
I fucking hate non blahaj people on Lemmy 196. Less chasery, more assholes
You shouldn’t hate anyone. I don’t.
I hate people coming into a trans safe space saying stupid and rude shit, yeah.
You’re on a trans meme instance, GTFO
Have to admit, first time I have heard the term. Sounds exhausting.
Walk_blesseDIdk, I feel like a lot of cis people go to ridiculous lengths to perform gender, and also a lot of trans people don’t.
This meme is about skill, not effort
Well in that case it’s just objectively correct.
such_lettuce7970I just am who I am. Yeah, I happen to be trans but I don't feel like I need to smush my hobbies, interests, personality, etc into any particular box. I'm enjoying the open air out here.
And in case any of that makes me sound particularily interesting - I'm not, lol. I'm probably pretty boring in most people's eyes. :P
Yeah, exactly. Me too.
What does that phrase mean?
Might be referring to philosopher Judith Butler’s “gender performativity.” Guessing by the similar name, I don’t know what it actually means.
Peachy [they/she] Hey a random use for my degree.
Gender is based on how you feel about yourself, obviously different than sex, which is based on your chromosomes. Each culture has a different idea of what gender means. For example, the US is a mostly patriarchal culture, meaning men are mostly in charge with some exceptions (this is SLOWLY changing to a more equal culture) compared to a matriarchical culture where women are mostly in charge with some exceptions. This puts pressure on people for how men and women are expected to act.
Gender performativity is how you perform your gender. I don’t want to assume your gender, so just think about the things you do to feel more like your gender. For some men, this is buying a muscle car or BBQing or going to the gym. These are stereotypes of masculinity, but they show how men purposely try to perform gender. For men who don’t do these things, they’re called girly or feminine.
(bonus lesson) -Rhetorical questions- What does this say about American culture? If not performing the “man” gender results in being calling a different gender, what’s wrong with that? Why is being called girly or feminine considered a bad thing? The US spotlights masculine identities without spotlighting the gender itself, therefore making feminine traits less desirable without explicity saying so. The US have moved away from overt misogyny into subtle misogyny in order to appear more equal. It gives plausible deniability.
Marginalized people in general have to put far more effort into identity than non-marginalied people. Black people often have to speak differently to white people, autistic people mask, women often have to wear a full face of makeup. Yes, all people put an insane amount of effort into gender, but the power imbalance in society makes it far lighter on some people.