@YouShallNotPass

Pretty sure it is something that most of us need to work through, yes.

@YouShallNotPass @quietbrooke

My spouse always calls me cutie, and I keep looking over my shoulders to see who he's talking to

Yea idk what they see  . But its probably most defintately a perception thing. See attached toot:

@psiie @YouShallNotPass @quietbrooke

There may be another factor here: When you're trans, dysphoria and misgendering yourself make it really hard to see yourself as attractive. I know it was for me. I don't just mean that I'm attracted to women and I didn't see myself as a woman. I mean I didn't see myself as someone who might attract others or as worthy of attraction.

Every time I looked at my body, my male-presenting body, it was just wrong. Most guys work out or style their hair or otherwise try to look good, to look attractive. I didn't. It confused the crap out of me when I went through puberty and watched the guys around me start exhibiting that behavior. At the time, I mostly chalked it up to masculine competition, probably over girls. These days, though, I've come to understand that they had something I didn't: body confidence.

As my body has begun to shift, my perception of myself has shifted as well. I like being attractive as a woman. Not just that but the more feminine I feel, the more possible that seems. I'm starting to feel attractive! It's crazy but wonderful.

@sophiesometimes @faithisleaping @YouShallNotPass @quietbrooke

I grew my hair out too! and loved it!