AITA for trying to get intimate with my cute friend while we were stuck in an elevator together?

https://lemm.ee/post/3327100

AITA for trying to get intimate with my cute friend while we were stuck in an elevator together? - lemm.ee

I (27M) am an electrical engineer. For the past year, I have been working in Japan, at my company’s Japanese office. During my time in Japan, I’ve become close friends with a fellow engineer named Shizuru (30F) (I usually just call her “Shirley” though). Shirley is the cutest girl in the world, and I am in love with her. Last weekend, Shirley and I spent the day together exploring the city. It was just the two of us, and we had a great time. Unfortunately, the mood soured near the end of our day together. We visited a large building, and we took the elevator back down to the ground. It was just the two of us in the elevator. The elevator stopped working, and we were stuck in it for a full hour. When the elevator stopped working, Shirley began to panic (she must be claustrophobic or something). She spent the entire hour crying hysterically and sweating and hyperventilating, and she kept leaning on me. Shizuru was wearing nothing but short shorts and a very, very low-cut, spaghetti strap tank top that day, and her tank top didn’t even cover her midriff. She kept pulling up her tank top (therefore exposing her entire body and a bit of her bra) to wipe her sweat off her chest and face. Also, while she was leaning on me in the elevator, she was touching me with her bare shoulder. All of this really, really, really turned me on, and I just couldn’t help myself. I used this opportunity to hug Shizuru, and then I slid my hand down her tank top and felt up her bra and body. When I did this, she screamed and cried harder and she tried to push me off of her, but I held her for a short time and continued feeling her up. I finally let her go because I got grossed out by the fact that she was sweating so much. After I let her go, Shirley just stood in the corner of the elevator, and she continued crying and she kept whining about how she wanted to go home. Nowadays, whenever Shizuru and I are together, she keeps stuttering and shaking, and every time I make any sudden movement in front of her, she whimpers and covers her head with her hands. Whenever I’m with her, I can tell that she’s trying her best not to cry.

Yes, yes you are.

She tried to push me off … I continued feeling her up …

There’s a line between being a simple asshole, and sexual assault. You’re way past asshole here.

Not sure if pasta or predator.
I feel like it’s a pasta.
What… the fuck? I hope this is a bad joke or something.

Hi yeah YTA, this is sexual assault and she probably has trauma from this experience. I don’t know if you’re going to receive this well based on the fact that you didn’t understand that you’re in the wrong and the language you’re using here, but because you clearly need it broken down:

  • Never, ever, make any kind of advance on someone, sexual or otherwise when they do not have an opportunity to exist the situation if they feel uncomfortable.
  • Never, ever, make any kind of advance on someone who is in distress.
  • If she was receptive (she isn’t and will now never be because you assaulted her), this is a work relationship and you would need to be extremely communicative - absolutely do not make advances without discussion first.

Any one of these mistakes followed by a groping without consent would constitute sexual assault. The trio is especially egregious. YTA, and if you love her or respect her, you will never speak with her again to avoid continuously retraumatizing her.

If this is real you sexually assaulted her. You’re not only the asshole, but a horrible person. And if this were reported to your HR you very well could be fired.

This is the same person who a few weeks back posted a different sexual assault fantasy fic to this sub.

Honestly, just block them and move on.