Nora ReedAug 6, 2023
anything to avoid actually calling in your boys to tell them to shut the fuck up sometimes lol https://cosocial.ca/@evan/110839737998715967
Evan Prodromou (@[email protected])

Hi, fediverse Web and mobile client developer. What if you added a speed bump in the reply flow to slow down users for just a moment? "Do you really want to reply to X? Will they appreciate your reply?" Maybe just the first time they reply to someone; maybe easily turned off in settings. If it makes people think for just a moment, it might help with making the fediverse a more welcoming place for women.

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Show threadNora ReedAug 6, 2023
the mansplaining problem is a cultural one with mastodon because it's full of cis men who have put more thought into their linux flavor of choice than they ever have about whether their behavior is useful or wanted. it cannot be solved with the twitter popup that says "are you sure you want to post this?" when you tell someone to eat shit
Show threadNora ReedAug 6, 2023
i don't get mansplained to nearly as much on bluesky, and that's not because bluesky stumbled on some kind of magical feminist UI design, it's because mastodon is dominated by FOSS nerds, who have a terrible culture
Show threadGraham Sutherland / PolynomialAug 6, 2023
@NoraReed if I didn't have a few good friends on fosstodon I would just block the instance lol
Show threadMark Otway

@gsuberland @NoraReed I'm not really sure this is an instance thing. I think it's more a "men on the Internet are often dicks" thing.

(Disclaimer: @damselfly is my account)

Aug 6, 2023 at 9:02amWeb
Show threadGraham Sutherland / PolynomialAug 6, 2023
@markotway @NoraReed @damselfly it's a proportion thing. I get comparatively few mansplainy / "badly designed UX is good, actually, and using it means I'm very smart" interactions, but >90% of them come from one instance.
Show threadNoodlemazAug 6, 2023

@gsuberland @markotway @NoraReed @damselfly but your username is also 'Graham...' which most men will instantly ID as 'man' so you're unlikely to see anything like the amount of mansplainers cf obvious-women's-accounts

Bc that's how they work. ID someone as female and therefore obviously knowing less, proceed to condescend.
That's part of the word's def.

Show threadGraham Sutherland / PolynomialAug 6, 2023
@noodlemaz @markotway @NoraReed @damselfly yeah, exactly, so it's waaaay worse if you're not male-presenting
Show threadGraham Sutherland / PolynomialAug 6, 2023
@noodlemaz @markotway @NoraReed @damselfly to be clear, when I say "it's a proportion thing" I mean for me, not for everyone, and almost certainly not for femme folks.
Show threadjust adrienneAug 6, 2023
@gsuberland @markotway @NoraReed @damselfly Universeodon is also super, SUPER full of splainy people, not only mansplainers but whitesplainers and cissplainers etc...
Show threadjust adrienneAug 6, 2023
@gsuberland @markotway @NoraReed @damselfly There is also a technical issue with the Fediverse which i am pretty sure significantly increases the amount of splaining overall: not everyone can see every reply to a post because of the way federation works. So the 50th dude mansplaining at you may not have even seen the other 49. This is deeply annoying and it's something that is technically possible to ameliorate in various ways, but nobody's really agreed on how to do it well yet.