Roni Rolle LaukkarinenAug 5, 2023

During my one year activity on the #Fediverse I've now seen at least four instance admins quitting from being an admin or shutting down their server. Half of these cases were admins being dickheads and the rest of them were mostly about users being dickheads leading admin getting burned out.

Both outcomes are unfortunate, but the latter makes me sad. Why do we have to harass and doxx an admin here for such pseudetical reasons like extensive open text search feature? I don't get humans sometimes.

I repeat: We are not free from toxicity on the Fediverse. Be kind. Make a chance.

#MastoAdmin #Fediverse #SocialMedia

Show threadRoni Rolle LaukkarinenAug 5, 2023

Btw, I've gotten really harsh criticism for just saying "Be kind"... that won't stop me from saying it. We can always be kind and I can say "be kind" out of kindness. Encouraging to kindness is not rudeness and I can't wrap my head around it why would it be anything else than focusing on the positive side of things.

There are always people who focus on negativity, pessimism and hate. Whatever hits me, I choose to smile. #Positivity #Kindness #Attitude

Show threadAllan ChowAug 5, 2023
@rolle Im assuming people have had to deal with people pulling dick moves but are always saying kind positive words while doing it.
Show thread🏴 Lispegistus 🧠➕🖥️Aug 5, 2023
@grumpasaurus @rolle Tone policing when you are justified in being angry is a common abuse tactic. There's also a term called "toxic positivity" when insistence on positive thinking is used as a way to dismiss peoples negative experiences or shut conversations down. Rudeness and anger are part of the spectrum of human expression and there are numerous contexts where they are more than appropriate and kindness is absolutely not.
Show threadRoni Rolle Laukkarinen
@lispegistus @grumpasaurus Those were the terms I was looking for, tone policing and toxic positivity. Thanks.
Aug 5, 2023 at 2:43pmWeb