Yeah, try to be neither of those parents.

It’s fucking hard. My kids school has religious or ethics studies, we picked ethics for our first kid. About 3 weeks into term he mentioned something about god and I was like wtf where did he hear that and asked and he said in bible class… I was pretty upset and assume the school ignore us and put him in that class. A bit more questioning and worked out he picked it to be with his friends. We finally decided to let him continue and make up his own mind. His now in year 4, and I think he has done Catholic, Hebrew and Hindu just following different friends into which one he wants, just this year he said he doesn’t believe in god he just doesn’t like ethics…