"Choosing an instance isn't difficult, I think people are overstating that."

Okay, now find an instance that:

* Isn't defederated from some significant portion of my friend group.

* Isn't defederated _from_ by the same.

* Doesn't defederate from major news sources running on their own instances.

* Has reasonable moderation.

* Will actually be here tomorrow and not just fold.

* Has reasonable uptime.

* I can trust to not to keep an unencrypted copy of the database on a personal device.

@hrefna
I think a minimal attempt at the first couple items could be to list the (approximate) percentage of fediverse users that a site blocks/defederates from. (Or is blocked by.)

To make this fairly accurate one would only need to consider the top 50 or so instances.

For example, a site might have good reasons for defederating from mastodon.social and universidon.social, but it would be good for beginners to know that this means losing contact with over 20% of users.