In your responses to anyone anywhere, I would ask you to remember there is a difference between "I see your struggle and I want to be helpful to you" and "You're doing it wrong and I want to be the one to say that to you" and also a difference in how they will be taken in by others. If you don't know the difference between the two (or don't care), perhaps it would be best for you not to say anything at all.
@scalzi welcome to the internet. you must be new here.
If you want a question answered, don't simply ask the question. Make an incorrect statement and people will flock to tell you why you are wrong.