T0rrent01Jul 18, 2023

What's something you used to do/see/say but don't anymore because you don't feel it's right?

https://lemmy.world/post/1696488

What's something you used to do/see/say but don't anymore because you don't feel it's right? - Lemmy.world

Me personally? I’ve become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women’s expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I’ve matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I’ve come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of ‘humor’ really is, and I regret it deeply.

Show threadlolola
Calling everyone “man”, “bro”, “you guys”
Jul 18, 2023 at 5:27amWeb
Show threadpeople_are_cuteJul 18, 2023
What’s wrong with that?
Show threadgoldenbugJul 18, 2023
That there is 51% of people who usually do not see themselves represented in those words. Y'all and peeps are my favorites.
Show threadpeople_are_cuteJul 18, 2023
I always thought those terms were gender neutral. Girls and boys alike use them where I’m from.
Show threadTouchTheFuckingFrogJul 18, 2023
A lot of FLINTA people don’t like it. It can be especially upsetting to AMAB people who don’t identify as male. It’s not the same, but it’s similar to things like the n-word, or the f-slur. If someone chooses to use the word about themselves, that’s one thing, but if they don’t, there’s a very good chance you’d upset them.
Show threadGlimpythegoblin Jul 18, 2023
What do those acronyms mean?
Show threadTouchTheFuckingFrogJul 18, 2023

FLINTA - Frauen, Lesben, Intersexuelle, Nicht-binär, Transgender and Agender. It’s a German acronym, and basically covers all non-cishet men, which a bent toward the female side of things.

AMAB - assigned male at birth. Basically if the doctor slapped your arse and said “it’s a boy”, you’re AMAB.

Show threadGlimpythegoblin Jul 19, 2023
Cool thanks! I didn’t expect German.
Show threadParsnipWitchJul 19, 2023

I started addressing people online with “Girls” and some completely lost their shit and got incredibly angry. I kinda think different now about addressing whole groups as “Boys”.

I realized that the fact people think “Boys” is neutral and cool but “Girls” is basically an insult is a problem. And I don’t want to take part in keeping it alive.

Show threadRusty ShacklefordJul 18, 2023
Come on bro, that’s just, like, you guys opinion, man…
Show threadT0rrent01Jul 18, 2023
I recommend “folks” or “fellas”.
Show threadDadbod89Jul 18, 2023
I still do this in the most gender neutral way possible, is this no longer kosher?
Show threadanolemmiJul 18, 2023

Nah it’s fine, you’re fine.

Some might disagree, but IMO it’s actually a show of respect and inclusion. In Star Trek they call all superior officers Sir, regardless of gender. Love it.