Reddit is just killing itself in general. I’ve been permanently banned from the place on multiple occasions for having I guess what the moderators and admins considered offensive/alternative opinions. I’m not conservative or anything, I’m definitely a liberal, but sometimes I have an opinion that goes a little against the status quo of the ultra liberal / progressive and that is when admins and mods throw a shit fit and don’t know how to handle it other than permanently banning users. I don’t think that Aaron Swartz ever intended Reddit to be a place where critical discussion would just be blanket banned.

I got permabanned from r/politics for saying RBG was a cunt for not resigning when she had a chance. (I stand by that and I’m blown away at how many people are truly offended at the word cunt.)

I was logged in with a different account and posted in politics about a different subject forgetting about that ban. So they permabanned ALL my accounts and blacklisted my IP.

Fuck 'em.

I was permabanned because I took part in a wider discussion on the r/games subreddit (hogwarts thread) that devolved a little bit into talking about trans issues down in the lower comments somewhere. I basically agreed with someone that if CIS women don’t exactly feel comfortable sharing a bathroom with trans women that they wanted to have a discussion around that then that was a reasonable opinion to have and thing to do, and I guess the moderators thought that I was calling for trans genocide or some other insane BS.

hey, trans woman here.

“cis” is not an acronym and is not capitalized.

you are a transphobe

awesome thanks for educating me

no I am not, I personally know trans people and I have nothing against them whatsoever. You’re just unwilling to admit that other people can have valid opinions other than your own if it doesn’t immediately fit into the view of the ideal world you have in your head. You fail to realize that other people have their own ideas of a world an ideal world looks like, or you just don’t consider their views to be valid, in which case you are doing the very same thing to them that you are accusing them of. So what it then comes down to is the need for a discussion between the two opposing groups to figure out what to do and how to reconcile. For the record, I don’t have a personal opinion on who should use what bathroom, I was merely stating that if cis woman feel that sharing that space with trans women is not safe or ideal for them then they should have the right to express that opinion, be heard and have a discussion on it. What you want to do is pretend you are not acting like a fascist while telling them to shut up and just live it and not express their opinion. What I am doing is saying that both ends of the spectrum should be heard there.

Counterpoint: At my partner’s former workplace a transwoman cannot enter the women’s bathroom at the same time as any AFAB woman. That woman has to stand outside and wait if people are trying to use the bathroom and essentially out and other herself on a daily basis. I don’t know if this came about because some annoying Karen complained or because management preemptively decided to shit on her so as not to risk offending any of the other women who use the bathroom. It’s pretty fucked. I can’t imagine how embarrassing and dehumanizing that is. If a transman came into the bathroom with me I wouldn’t think he was trying to get his jollies looking at my weiner. Also, plenty of cis dudes have done that to me.

I’m not saying creeps and perverts don’t exist, but I’m willing to bet there are easier ways to get a glimpse of bathroom boobies and checks notes going on hormone therapy and fundamentally changing how you interface with society

Yeah I’m sure that does suck and that is a bad way to handle things. At the same time I don’t necessarily know what the best way to handle things are. Speaking personally, I wouldn’t have any issue with a trans women using the men’s bathroom, but really what I see as being a solution that satisfies everyone is making some sort of intersex/intergender bathroom that just anyone can use completely regardless. Obviously its not like that can happen over night, but if you’re in a first world country like me then its really not so much to expect society to adapt to over time. It’s something most large businesses could start adopting over night. Imagine if there were some sort of government subsidy or something to help with the financial side of making that happen, could make it just a little bit faster and easier to happen. Regardless though, I’m not a cis or trans women so I don’t have a personal take on this I can’t personally understand either side of the argument, I just don’t think that one side OR the other deserves to go unheard and not listened to. As to what to do immediately to help everyone, I really don’t know.

I mean. Yeah: I know transwomen (and men). When you’ve lived all your life as a cis person this shit is kind of a mind fuck. I never realized how lucky I am for my body and mindset to just fundamentally make sense to me. Until it got more visibility I had no reason to even consider that viewpoint and even now it is still foreign.

Just talk to people. Getting to know the human behind everything so that trans folks aren’t just abstractions will definitely make you empathetic. I’m lucky enough to live somewhere fairly progressive where trans folks can let themselves happen whether they “pass” or not. By and large they just want to live and not have to be othered all the time.

I’m also willing to bet the lady who called you a transphobe is just sick of seeing bad faith arguments trickle down. Being trans in our society is massively anxiety provoking for reasons you’d expect. Hearing those same arguments that have been weaponized in other contexts (even if the person currently saying them is not necessarily a raging asshole) is triggering because of how blurry that line can get