WARNING: contains mental health topics
In my case, there were, to put it mildly, rough times in my teenage years regarding my mental wellbeing, so your last paragraph sounds to a quite high extent relatable, actually. The human brain is especially interesting when one has experienced it do weird stuff. But I find that rising like a Phoenix bird from that mental torment (I am so glad the rising happened) has actually been a thing that made me a better thinker than I would have been without all that happening. Mental anguish in the form of anxiety and feeling low about myself and life persisted for quite a long time but in the last few years my wellbeing finally improved a lot and those feelings have mostly subsided. To the point, I have during my years on this earth so far concentrated so much on metathinking about the mind and other mind-related self-improvement that I nowadays have a perhaps exceptionally high awareness of thoughts and feelings happening in me and lots of self mind control capacity, leading to the conclusion that in my opinion, if you have felt for a very long time that you definitely don’t want kids, in my experience that may very well be a thing that is there to persist. One thing I would recommend to consider when thinking about the choice on whether to have a permanent birth control is whether having kids was something you were strongly wishing in your teenage years or adulthood. For me, there was almost all the time no will to ever have children, except for some rather short periods I was kind of thinking about it but those were really strictly exceptions in the whole timescale. Also, which would be more horrible to you: having a child when you don’t want one or being unable to have one when you cannot, no matter how much you want to have one? It might also be a decent idea to estimate the odds of those feelings happening, were you to choose the applicable option in the sterilization choice. I myself in my case have no fear of ever having the regrets of my no offspring decision. And even if that sadness somehow happened, one thing to think of to help to ease that emotion is the meaning of the saying “the grass is always greener on the other side”. One cannot both have kids and not have kids. The choice of no kids grew even stronger in the last decade of my life and was super strong for several years before I did the vasectomy. I never was a person that really liked to be around kids, even as a five year old I usually preferred and picked the option of listening to adults talk stuff and somewhat partake in the discussion myself when my family was visiting friends and relatives rather than play with other kids, though that too happened. The adults just were even back then intellectually more in sync with me than the other kids. There is in my opinion no set-in-stone best age to start considering the operation. I myself maybe half a decade ago read about that operation on the internet and it resonated with me (I knew of vasectomy as a phenomenon much earlier, but only at that later time I started to strongly think about it and pretty quickly I knew it was the thing that I was just going to do (which did become true months after I got old enough to get the procedure easily here in Finland). Sterilization is one of those things I cannot recommend lightly, as in, without thinking very well through that thing and one’s feelings about that, a sterilization can very easily cause lots of regrets. Sterilization is like crossing a no return line in the floor of life. If you want to still be able to walk back to that safe zone of child creation ability, sterilization may not be for you at the time being. The thing, however, is that life is always an uncertain adventure. For some people these kinds of choices are easy and for some they are not. For me the choice was pretty easy but I did make sure to think through it thoroughly enough to not fear that there would be a wish in me to reproduce. Hopefully this gives some food for thought. Take care and remember that it’s your decision. Sometimes in life it is good to think about things some more. Sometimes, it however is time to just go for it. Take care.
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Mikina