(please RT, would really love for my gf to be able to solder fine pitch SMD stuff)
@whitequark I think you can go a long way by providing a really solid place to rest your hand, fully take all the weight off it, so that only your fingers are doing the actuating. When I get small shakes from over-caffeination, if i'm not at the PnP i'll just stack up a few boxes next to the vice.
I remember from various youtubes that hand / tool support is a vital part of production welding too. Carefully re-arranging the work-piece and the welder feed-lines to offload the static lod
@whitequark Over time I found myself subconsciously extending a pinky to touch down on the vice to try and do a similar thing (took years to train myself NOT to drop my pinky right into freshly applied solderpaste...)
The pinky technique always helped a small amount, but the real deal is to fully take all that weight off.