(please RT, would really love for my gf to be able to solder fine pitch SMD stuff)
I would recommend trying a binocular microscope, 10x or 20x if you can find one handy.
Anecdotal story here. I have a good friend with Parkinson's disease. We conducted an experiment, and I wish I had recorded it.
I had my friend with me as I was assembling a bunch of boards with SMD and through hole bits. I had him hold one of my super sharp probes and point to one of the SMD components. Quite obviously he was unable to keep his hand tremors under control and was shaking quite a bit.
He then looked at the component under microscopy. It was amazing, the amount of movement that the tremors were without the microscope, translated to what his eyes saw in the microscope. To me, I was not looking under the scope, it looked like his hand had stopped trembling. We both couldn't believe it and we still talk about it.