ScarronlineOnline dating
I think with the horror show dating has become in general, people are becoming more and more afraid to be vulnerable in even the slightest perceived ways. š Thereās a reason for the loneliness epidemic. Between mass narcissism and guttural fear of winding up with a person who will just use/abuse you, Iām shocked I havenāt seen worse. š
Oddly enough, since Iām so used to being open when Iām ~anonynous on the internet, when I need a confidence push to be open with someone in person I just pretend Iām on the internet and theyāre a stranger, and bum bam wam suddenly I donāt give a shit what they think of me & I can just speak comfortably
I can imagine it going that way, too. It really depends on the person. Itās oddā¦we seem to have built this culture around distrust and winning at any cost and it feels good at first glance. Once you dig deeper, though, the whole thing is just ugly. If I lost my husband, Iād voluntarily choose to be alone. Iām not willing to have my heart torn out and having it used to beat me within an inch of my life. >_<
Yea the lack of confidence is not without reason for sure. Itās like the āfake-it-till-you-make-itā idea which in practice only works when the feeling of insecurity is overstepping. The confidence boost just snaps me out of that headspace which is nice, and every now n then I still say something goofy but iddiswuddidis