Where can I learn about transferring my community to another instance? Lemmy.worlds silence about threads means he has no intent to defederate so I need to move over to lemmy.ml.

Or is this not possible? Do I just need to walk away from my community because @ruud doesn’t care about the issue?

If that’s the case, how do I add a mod that doesn’t care about meta expressly stating they are going to add features to ActivityPub protocol (step two of EEE)? I don’t want to keep coming back here if it is federated with threads but I don’t need to leave whoever is staying here high and dry.

Make your own instances. No more issues.

Is there a quality guide for how to do this? Preferably online.

Use the ansible Lemmy install, it’s very simple and will also create https certs and everything. But you need a domain first, pointed at your hosted instance.