I think the real “problem” the fediverse has isn’t that it’s hard to use, it’s that it doesn’t fit the pattern. It’s like if someone asks “what grocery do you order from?” and you respond “My building’s co-op, I get meals & fresh food delivered from participating farms & cooks— I do solar panel maintenance and run the website in return— plus goodie fees”
“goodie fees? … um … so is that like UberEats then?”

And what’s worse is it sounds more complex because it’s atypical— but really it’s easier

@futurebird I saw a take recently that part of the problem is that, to some extent, folks on Fedi are self-selected as somewhat techie, and we collectively are doing a bad job of explaining to less-techie folks by explaining TOO MUCH.

If we would just all say "hey friend, join the Fediverse, here's an invite link" and leave out the "on my server, you can choose another if you want, etc, etc", and let them figure it out from there, would it work better?

@tim @futurebird there's also the factor of implicitly not wanting another kind of people to join as well, which expresses on a rather exaggerated "it's a feature, not a bug" attitude even with things that would be better to have fixed.
We're just accustomed to the weird way this works and prefer that any newcomers have to pay that cognitive price, just as we did in the beginning.