GuilvareuxBut if I do pay attention, I’ll just forget it anyway…
Lumidaub"(Okay. Okay, okay, okay, here goes.) Hey, I'm so sorry, I'm so very bad with names, what's yours again? (Gawd that was awful, but it's over, we did it, I'm so proud of us, we overcame our fear and.... FUCK what did they say?!)"
“Oh don’t sweat it, I’m useless with names too!”
(… … oh fuck! I should’ve asked their name! That was the perfect, consequence-free moment)
HoppsI was expecting the DK rap :(
genoxidedev1At least you remember to ask people for their name I had it happen that I didn't ask for someones name until I knew them for more than half a year
I was afraid to use my girlfriend’s dad’s name that I 100% knew - because what if I don’t actually know
Never remembering names (I can barely remember faces) has always been a thing and I think I’ve just gotten good at rarely using them.
That being said, my GF at the time is now my wife, and I actually say her dad’s name now. Turns out I was right all along!
…I think
If it weren't for "you" and "your" I probably wouldn't be able to survive. I'm genuinely the most oblivious and forgetful person that I know.
haha. I didn't know people's names whom i worked with for over 2 years.
Alternatively:
“What’s your name again?”
“T*********”
"Sorry, what?*
“Ti********”
😐
“Nice to meet you Timberly”
Haha! I had someone tell me their name a few weeks ago. Kinda sounded like coffee so his name is now coffee. Can’t for the life of me remember his actual name and I’ve asked numerous times. I usually just hope that I don’t get in a situation where I need to know their name. Fun times. At least we can laugh about it.
DankOfAmericaMe: Hi, I’m DankOfAmerica
Them: Hi Dank, I’m… <Me: Did I say my name weird? I have a weird name to say. I should practice saying it more.> Nice to meet you.
Me: Likewise 😀 <Me internally: fuckkkk, what was their name?>
SirNukeSo this is dumb but I’ve been carrying around a little notebook to write random things down, and I’ve taken to recording names of new people I meet. Also people are way more forgiving of forgetting names and I’ve also accepted that people that aren’t are not worth being around anyway.
I see your dumb notebook and raise you an obsidian notes database… that idea didn’t last long…
Seriously though, little notebooks are lifesaving.
But what if they wear a different color shirt, or even worse, get a haircut?
Constant issue for me. I realized how much of a relief it was the other day when someone asked my name again after being introduced 15 minutes earlier, I got a chance to ask them their again and I felt a little more human for a bit.
I find that repeating someones name after they introduce themselves greatly helps with remembering it.
Yep, ‘I’m Steve’, ‘Steve? hi Steve, nice to meet you’ is exactly what I do and it helps.
But seriously: the majority of people have problems remembering names. You just have to become comfortable with the fact and maybe apologize upfront. People are not only understandable but relieved.
I think this is not just an ADHD trait.
There are no traits exclusive to ADHD. Even executive dysfunction isn’t completely unique to ADHD…
why does this always happen?? :(
You errr, you know which community we’re in right? :P
whatever you say Toad!
I once had an acquaintance/friend for 4 years who told me their name when we first met. I immediately forgot it of course but managed to avoid referring to them by name the whole time and I only found out what it was again when I told them I was moving overseas and they gave me contact details to reach them after I moved. So funny suddenly achieving that 4 year long goal of one day figuring out what they were called like that. Of course, I lost the contact details and forgot their name immediately after that buton the day I was able to thanks them using their name for the first time in years and it felt very satisfying.
of course, but I still am frustrated that this always happens
Anyone do a thing where to remember the name you mentally attach them to someone you already know. Then right on cue you can remember the link but not the name of the family member you linked them to.
Sigh… more often that I could admit