Why is so hard to human-ate?
Why is so hard to human-ate?
So obviously I don’t know you at all, and this might not be applicable or possible for you, but as some one who for a long time just didn’t “get it” and now feels like they do, some tips:
Even if you don’t continue the conversation beyond “how are you? Good, and you? Good”, you interacted with the world, and had a non-negative result.
Being able to generate positive interactions is the first step to feeling comfortable in the world.
When someone is talking, try to think of a relevant question based on what they are saying. They talk about a trip, “was that your first time there?” Talk about a hobby “what got you interested in that”, talk about their work, “whats it like dealing with ___?”
The more you talk, the greater the chance someone isn’t interested in what you say. The more they talk, the more you learn what interest them, making conversation easier.
Be brief. Listen more than you talk, but when you do talk, say useful or applicable things. Ask relevant questions to learn more and keep the conversation going.
This is a useful tip for many autistic people interacting within NT communities, but it isn’t the ideal. Sometimes you do have a lot to talk about that other people would like to hear, and you’ll get stronger relationships with people you’re able to do so.