yeah, the largest one is k6qw, with 52 thousand users, but only 4 users online atm compared to lemmy.world, 42.8 thousand users, 5.63 thousand online

edit: source: https://lemmy.fediverse.observer/list

Honestly, if these instances don't get their act together, I'd vote on my instance to defederate from it.

I'm usually not one calling for defederating, it seems like a liability, though.

The beauty of the fediverse and the power of ownership is being able to take decisions like these.
It's like digital socialism! (Or something)
My thought of the same way about you about not wanting to call for defederation, but after thinking about it and owning an instance of my own now, I realize that that is the whole point. Instance, owners can block entire instances from federating with them if every instance blocks and instance that is a bad actor than they literally can't federate with anyone and that solves the issue.