Tolstoy

Fear of communication gone after switching to lemmy

https://lemmy.world/post/398052

Fear of communication gone after switching to lemmy - Lemmy.world

Hey, I hope it’s ok to post something like this here. I just wanted to say thanks for the people here^^ A long time ago I joined Reddit and tried to post, comment and communicate about stuff I liked. Only now I noticed how much I became a lurker over the time because of the negativity at Reddit. Snappy comments, no real feedback but hate, sometimes even borderline insults… After nuking and deleting my Reddit account and switching to lemmy I noticed how much I missed it. People here are way more friendly and communicate politely. At least for now… Posting is fun again, all thanks to you all^^ That’s my two cents. Thanks for reading. Love you all, keep safe. Cheers

Jun 21, 2023 at 9:27pmWeb
Show threadEtnies419Jun 21, 2023
Whenever I got a notification from Reddit, there was always that half second of a sinking feeling of "oh shit what did I say to piss someone off."
Show threadKichaeJun 22, 2023
I literally stopped checking my notifications there. It honestly started to trigger my PTSD at some points. Using social media shouldn't really result in hyper-arousal, but it regularly did.
Show threaddomirielJun 21, 2023
Indeed. I’ve been on Reddit for 11 years and pretty much lurking all the time. Everything always felt judgemental... Now, my fear is that Lemmy will go the same way once the number of users grows. We’ll see…
Show threadKichaeJun 22, 2023

Find smaller communities about the topics you like. They're basically always friendlier than big monolithic ones, because people on the big ones essentially need to be cranky assholes just to get any kind of attention or feedback.

This will feel a lot more natural here due to each site having its own namespace. You can join @topic instead of @topic and deal with, like, 200 people, rather than 200,000.

Show threadlemmybruceleeJun 21, 2023
Hard like. Lemmy feels like reddit felt when digg died. Fresh, new, fulla hope! Love the fediverse!!
Show threadTimeSquirrelJun 22, 2023

Lemmy feels like reddit felt when digg died.

Except Lemmy/Kbin/Mastodon have no need to fill their servers with sockpuppet accounts to make them seem popular like Reddit did.

Show threadminnieoJun 22, 2023
and the fediverse is decentralized so the entire platform cant go to shit if one instance owner makes bad decisions, we can just move on to a diff instance all while staying on the same platform. the beauty of the fediverse!
Show threadMonola19Jun 22, 2023
Sending a warm welcome! I relate—I honestly JUST started to comment here and there on Reddit within this past year. I join kbin and within a week I’ve commented more here then the 8 years I lurked on reddit. It’s just a better overall vibe here.
Show threadminnieoJun 22, 2023
i feel the same way, it was as if by saying anything on reddit you were poking a sleeping bear. not anymore. i have a shit ton of comments and threads here already and not a single rude comment
Show threadThe_Empty_TupleJun 22, 2023
Glad to have you with us! This place feels more like a real community. I've commented more on kbin this past week than on reddit the past two years combined.
Show threadSarsaparillaJun 22, 2023
This is true for me as well. I became very considered with all my posts, and scared to post a quick off-hand remark on reddit. Often I would get half-way through a comment, and just delete it because I had become paranoid about how it would be received - even the most mundane thoughts and opinions. It was just too mentally exhausting to deal with. And also, I 'd just like to say: the "fancy pants" editor is shit.
Show threadminnieoJun 22, 2023
Hello from kbin! i also noticed this, its so much less intimidating to express yourself here on the fediverse
Show threadwave_walnutJun 22, 2023
Same about me. In here fediverse, I feel every comments I got are all living comments if it's upvoted or not.