seeCseasJun 18, 2023

YSK: Service Dog etiquette is to leave them alone as to not distract the dog's focus. So if they come to you for attention, immediately locate their owner as they could be using a last ditch effort to

https://lemmy.world/post/254777

YSK: If service dogs come to you for attention, immediately locate their owner - Lemmy.world

Why YSK: Service Dog etiquette is to leave them alone as to not distract the dog’s focus. If they’re approaching you, they could be using a last ditch effort to save their owner. They will usually follow you, whine, bark, or otherwise try to grab your attention if this is the case.

Show threadSouthernCrossJun 18, 2023
My dog, who is NOT a service dog did this. My baby, at the time needed a bit of tough love, so we put him alone in his room, in the dark. He cried and cried and we planned to check up on him after a few minutes. The dog came and scratched on our bedroom door, pushing it open as we left it partly open. He jumped for attention and when I thought he wanted to be taken outside, he led me to the baby's room. He pushed it open and let out a quiet whine while looking up at me and followed by sheepishly looking into the baby's room. I could tell he was concerned for the baby. Dogs are awesome. Service dogs are just amazing. We don't deserve them.
Show threadRatkingJun 18, 2023

Sorry I'm not a parent so I don't know about these things, but for what does it help to put a baby alone in a dark room?

I would probably be paranoid that it develops some random issues from stuff like that and carries to adult life but maybe that's just some hippie bullshit.

Show threadberkeleyblueJun 18, 2023
The whole concept of “tough love” is nonsense and usually an excuse for child abuse. It’s of no value. Not saying this instance was abusive but it doesn’t really help either from what we know about child development.
Show threadshoelace

The concept of "tough love" can mean a lot of different things and dismissing it as having "no value" is painting with too broad a stroke.

In this specific instance, it's helpful because kids need to learn at some point that they can't always cry to get what they want. This absolutely has value because otherwise they continue that behavior as toddlers (and sometimes even past that if you keep enabling them...).

Jun 18, 2023 at 1:51pmWeb
Show threadberkeleyblueJun 18, 2023

So far almost everything I've read is either inconclusive or suggests that letting babies "cry it out" has no benefits that are tangeable or, as some studies found, it's even a possible risk for the babies development:

The "sometimes or more" group of "ignoring the crying baby" from six months to three years reported relatively consistent significant associations with developmental delay in communication (maximum adjusted odds ratio [aOR]: 1.456, 95% confidence interval [CI]: 1.261-1.682), gross motor (maximum aOR: 1.279, 95% CI: 1.159-1.411), fine motor (maximum aOR: 1.274, 95% CI: 1.113-1.457), problem-solving (maximum aOR: 1.178, 95% CI: 1.104-1.256), and personal-social domains (maximum aOR: 1.326, 95% CI: 1.255-1.402).

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35259689/

If you have anything substantial to the contrary, I would love to read it :-)

Show threadSouthernCrossJun 19, 2023

For context, it was well past his nap time. We had a schedule to help set his sleeping pattern. We paid a professional to guide us with setting a baby's nap and feeding pattern as well. Clueless and loving parents can sometime fall for every single cry. It's not enjoyable for us to let our baby cry alone, but it has to be done at times.

Following baby's desire whenever and wherever, would lead to fatigue for parents and child. Fatigue parents are no good to a baby.

I suggest not to draw into conclusions too easily. It's easy for the world to label everything as abuse now adays.