chalkmanJun 16, 2023

Hey could we defederate with explodinghead.org

https://sh.itjust.works/post/151703

Hey could we defederate with exploding-heads.com/ - sh.itjust.works

The instance seems to be mostly right wing trolls. I know defederating is unpopular but I don’t think much is to be lost in this case and it can save the mods some headaches. Edit: the response on exploding-heads.com [http://exploding-heads.com] to my reporting of transphobia. Courtesy of the “second in command” [https://sh.itjust.works/pictrs/image/e9ef2ba8-5956-4b76-98a2-3d3b47b860bc.jpeg]

Show threadInfiniteVariablesJun 17, 2023
IDK why people are thinking he's gonna de-federate for transphobia when he has allowed the matt walsh documentary to sit on his instance for days now
Show threadDarkwingDuckJun 17, 2023
I am thankful I found a non-ban-happy home where I can see opinions I may dislike.
Show threadInfiniteVariablesJun 17, 2023
That's your prerogative. I hopped to a different instance that more closely aligned with what I was looking for and also appears not to be ban-happy.
Show threadDarkwingDuckJun 17, 2023
I don't see exploding-heads on lemmy.world's blocklist.
Show threadInfiniteVariablesJun 17, 2023
You're right. I just blocked them directly.
Show threadDarkwingDuckJun 17, 2023
Only thing I'm blocking is loli and annoying hentai spam. My ego is not fragile enough to shield my eyes from opinions I may dislike.
Show threadInfiniteVariablesJun 17, 2023
Sometimes people just don't wanna see slurs or dehumanizing content. Doesn't make them soft. Something you see that is "an opinion you dislike" might feel a whole lot worse for someone else depending on their age, sexuality, general, ect.
Show threadDarkwingDuckJun 17, 2023
How do those people function in real life where they don't have such a pre-filter?
Show threadThe Quuuuuill
In real life, you can filter by not hanging out with people who speak abusively about and to you. You can walk away. And yeah, sometimes those abusive people follow you. So a lot of them seek online support communities as a retreat from the abuse. Saying "they should just toughen up" misses on what their daily life is like, and that no one wants to be subject to constant unending abuse
Jun 17, 2023 at 11:45amWeb
Show threadDarkwingDuckJun 17, 2023
Can we agree that the public fediverse should not be a curated safe space where ideas not supported by your political leaders are suppressed but instead just moderated for personal insults and harassment and such?
Show threadThe QuuuuuillJun 17, 2023
The Fediverse, and what you see in it, should be what you want it to be. That's what the prevailing design decisions of the Fediverse have always been. You want more exposure to more of the Fediverse than I do. That's great. You should have that. I want a more curated experience where I don't have to deal with what I consider bigoted or abusive behavior. I should also have that. It's why instance choice matters. If you don't like how an instance federates, you are free to pick another instance or self-host. For me, what works is two accounts. One that sees more, and one that's more curated. That's been a pattern of use on the Fediverse for a long time
Show threadDarkwingDuckJun 17, 2023

I don't think you should be expecting any curation if you're looking at the All tab.

So far this instance alignes with my values. If this changes I will leave.