Brian Small@Benji Big families are great.. But Mio took the big car to Miyazaki this weekend. So I only have the four-seater K-car. But I think Snobby is happy to help. She is always driving new friends around in her car.
@Benji Today was fun! I am happy that you and your family decided to participate in the Kodomo Shokudo, or ChiIki Shokudo. The name of today's Community Shokudo is RinRinShokudo. I think the anti-poverty activist Makoto Yuasa started the Kodomo Shokudou movement for poor children that did not get enough to eat. But now it was become a local community-building event. Yuasa Makoto is interesting. Today was fun, I enjoyed talking and joking with you and everyone. And it was great to see KuriChan too. I am jealous that she bit you and not be. How is you chest. Do you still have two nipples? I hope you are not in pain now. Hang in There!!
@Benji I am thinking about your Facebook messages. Even a bullshit job can be interesting. Even Aeon can be interesting, just to see peoples faces, and some of the people are beautiful. The book store is nice... The important thing is to get out of the house and out of your mind sometimes. Getting out and doing one thing for a while leads to another thing. For the first 7 years of my first marriage I did not work. My first wife had a good job at a bank. But I biked around MIyazaki city and talked with people. I worked at a TateGuYasan: a factory that makes and installs doors, DoBusuma, furniture... Then deaf man that became the head of a big organization wanted me to teach sign language so I did that for a while. Then after 7 years my wife finally got pregnant so I had to find a job for a year while she had off from work for Maternity Leave. So I started working at ECC, an EiKaiWa corporation. I went to training in Osaka, and worked teaching stupid conversations at night for two years. But there were interesting parts of the experience that I was able to learn from.. And then some old guy I walked in the mountains with wanted me to teach at his university, and I was able to start as the unversity's English teacher because the committees saw my ECC experience. And now I am learning interesting things like GDM (the teaching method!) and programmign (Racket!).. and who knows? maybe this experience will put me into something even more interesting. In a few years maybe we will be able to make a Free School. But I think I need to get out into the world and learn from experience before I can do all the important, idealistic, anarchist stuff.
Unfortunately I think we need our women too. They give us their stress but things are more stressful without their stress. I am happy that Mio and I can take a break from each other sometimes, But sometimes I think of all the great helpful things she does too. After a few years to don't have as many laughs and orgasms together the way we used too. But sometimes we get the old magic back... And I think getting together with another women might be nice at first, but then the same sorts of problems will come up again, just more complicated.
We need more than the nuclear family. When Mio and I have trouble we talk with other friends. We need a NagaYa (長屋, a long house) or a tribe. Kurt Vonnegut wrote about it too. We need more people... That's why it is important to go to the community events, it's not just fun but it's helps us deal with our spouse and family too.. And the people help too... I have a lot of wood, and sources for wood because of the community, Itaya-san and Tsuzaki-san. And I think we can all help each other with other problems too...
IF you have time today come over and talk. Mio is not here so we can talk in peace. You can write at the big table and watch the chickens while I do computer stuff too. Or we can just talk..
Unfortunately I think we need our women too. They give us their stress but things are more stressful without their stress. I am happy that Mio and I can take a break from each other sometimes, But sometimes I think of all the great helpful things she does too. After a few years to don't have as many laughs and orgasms together the way we used too. But sometimes we get the old magic back... And I think getting together with another women might be nice at first, but then the same sorts of problems will come up again, just more complicated.
We need more than the nuclear family. When Mio and I have trouble we talk with other friends. We need a NagaYa (長屋, a long house) or a tribe. Kurt Vonnegut wrote about it too. We need more people... That's why it is important to go to the community events, it's not just fun but it's helps us deal with our spouse and family too.. And the people help too... I have a lot of wood, and sources for wood because of the community, Itaya-san and Tsuzaki-san. And I think we can all help each other with other problems too...
IF you have time today come over and talk. Mio is not here so we can talk in peace. You can write at the big table and watch the chickens while I do computer stuff too. Or we can just talk..
Benji@bsmall2 Thank you for your message, I love people and seeing them, but I can't all the time, I'm lonely too and I love solitude. I need to see people but not all the time, agitation and movement also tire me, it's a part of me since I was little that I can't change, stay in the calm and silence. I know that getting out of the house allows me to clear my mind, but I go out every day, walk for an hour or two and do some sport. People are an environment, and if their environment changes, their thoughts change. Thank you for telling me about your life and Mio. All experiences are enriching. Every human contact is positive, I know, and helping others is a factor in evolution, but I can't be totally like you, you're very energetic and motivated, I don't have that strength. The couple's stories are going to change, Kaori is worried, but I always say that nobody's dead and there's always a solution. If the problem has a solution, there's no point in worrying, and if there's a solution, there's no point in worrying either. Thanks for your message, I won't be in today, I want to rest a bit.
@Benji I am going to take a nap too! Yesterday I had to lay down for 30 minutes after all the excitement. This morning it was hard to get out of bed. I had a dream, or I thought today was Wednesday and I was going to take a day off from work. I was sad to think of the trouble it would be to contact my work-place and say that I need a day off. But then I remembered today is Sunday and I was happier. But I was still very tired... If you have a chance I hope you can read something about Juliet Schor's Born to Buy It is hard to escape money worries when the children are young. Schor writes about the USA, but in some ways Japan is just as bad. And in Japan, even if you can avoid the commercialism, the schools demand a lot of money.. Junior High School and High School are terrible with the uniforms.. and if the kids don't study enough to get into a public KenRitsu KouKou the tuition is expensive. We should talk with MatsuOka Yumi-san (the Miso lady, she gave her card to Kaori) about the Free School they want to create...
AND, speaking of Bullshit jobs, In Miyazaki it might be interesting to work with cows. I know an interesting old guy who lives nearby. When I was worried I would get in trouble at the university (If I fight with a big, mean old professor and really hurt him, the police might make a big deal about it, right??) I was dreaming about quitting and and going to see if there was work in taking care of cows. It would be fun to shovel cow manure, move bullshit!!! One day, let's take a walk and see IshiZaka-san. Even if we don't ask him about work, he might take us out drinking. He invited me to go out drinking a few years ago. And he is divorced!! I wonder where he goes to drink?? The world is a fascinating place, we can't let the little trouble hid the beauty from us. But sometimes we have to find a way to deal with the little troubles too. I will enjoy solitude today too.. I have to sharpen the chainsaw and do a few other things, but before that... It's NapTime. zzzzzzz 🥱😴💤
AND, speaking of Bullshit jobs, In Miyazaki it might be interesting to work with cows. I know an interesting old guy who lives nearby. When I was worried I would get in trouble at the university (If I fight with a big, mean old professor and really hurt him, the police might make a big deal about it, right??) I was dreaming about quitting and and going to see if there was work in taking care of cows. It would be fun to shovel cow manure, move bullshit!!! One day, let's take a walk and see IshiZaka-san. Even if we don't ask him about work, he might take us out drinking. He invited me to go out drinking a few years ago. And he is divorced!! I wonder where he goes to drink?? The world is a fascinating place, we can't let the little trouble hid the beauty from us. But sometimes we have to find a way to deal with the little troubles too. I will enjoy solitude today too.. I have to sharpen the chainsaw and do a few other things, but before that... It's NapTime. zzzzzzz 🥱😴💤